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Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
BonesMS:
--- Quote from: Certain Hope on February 24, 2008, 02:43:38 PM ---Hi Bones,
Sorry, this is over my head, I think... but one thing - when my ex was not trying to absorb me or become me, he often did give me the impression that having me fear him was just exactly what he wanted... so, I guess I don't get it?
Love,
Carolyn
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Sorry, I didn't express myself clearly. One of the other things that was in the episode was that the "Intendant" was in love with her "Mirror" self. If that is not Narcissism, I don't know what is.
Bones
Certain Hope:
--- Quote from: BonesMS on February 25, 2008, 01:44:02 PM ---
Sorry, I didn't express myself clearly. One of the other things that was in the episode was that the "Intendant" was in love with her "Mirror" self. If that is not Narcissism, I don't know what is.
Bones
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oh. Yup, I see, Bones.
It's so strange... when I met my ex, he mirrored to me all of my own best qualities and I "fell in love" with him. So I wonder whether we don't all tend to love our "selves" that way, to an extent.... like when we meet someone whom we think is a kindred spirit.
But of course N's are hollow-cored, so we really are falling for a reflection.
Not sure that makes sense, but o well.
Love,
Carolyn
BonesMS:
--- Quote from: Certain Hope on February 25, 2008, 04:47:36 PM ---
--- Quote from: BonesMS on February 25, 2008, 01:44:02 PM ---
Sorry, I didn't express myself clearly. One of the other things that was in the episode was that the "Intendant" was in love with her "Mirror" self. If that is not Narcissism, I don't know what is.
Bones
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oh. Yup, I see, Bones.
It's so strange... when I met my ex, he mirrored to me all of my own best qualities and I "fell in love" with him. So I wonder whether we don't all tend to love our "selves" that way, to an extent.... like when we meet someone whom we think is a kindred spirit.
But of course N's are hollow-cored, so we really are falling for a reflection.
Not sure that makes sense, but o well.
Love,
Carolyn
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I think we gravitate toward the "familiar" in an unconscious attempt to "fix" the unfixable.
Bones
Certain Hope:
--- Quote from: BonesMS on February 27, 2008, 12:09:26 PM ---
I think we gravitate toward the "familiar" in an unconscious attempt to "fix" the unfixable.
Bones
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I guess that's the general theory, Bones... so as long as we leave the fixing to the master Fixer, then we'll be able to keep marching toward the goal.
Love,
Carolyn
BonesMS:
--- Quote from: Certain Hope on February 27, 2008, 06:07:22 PM ---
--- Quote from: BonesMS on February 27, 2008, 12:09:26 PM ---
I think we gravitate toward the "familiar" in an unconscious attempt to "fix" the unfixable.
Bones
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I guess that's the general theory, Bones... so as long as we leave the fixing to the master Fixer, then we'll be able to keep marching toward the goal.
Love,
Carolyn
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Thanks, Carolyn!
Bones
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