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Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
BonesMS:
Just need to rant today.
After bf was blabbering all week about taking me out on a date on Sunday to a restaurant, he changed the plans at the last minute because HE had more important things to do for himself and couldn't understand why I was so upset. I told him, point blank, that if he wanted to act like a roommate, then that is ALL he's going to get from me!
Bones
Ami:
Sorry, Bones. I can tell you felt dissapointed and perhaps, unloved or uncared for. I hope your b/f can understand your feelings and give you a little TLC, anyway.
Maybe, he can give you a raincheck. I hope so. Love Ami
Certain Hope:
Oh, Bones... I remember dear Mr. Blueberry. Sounds like he needs a crash course in Remedial Romance 101!
Good for you, for telling him straight up what the problem is.
You know him best, but if he's just an ordinary guy... I'd say the fact that he's clueless :shock: pretty much comes with the territory :P and he's not unique in that. Takes alot of instruction to housebreak ermm... I mean, train... a male :lol:
and I'm only partly kiddin!
((((((((((((Bones)))))))))))))) here's one possibility:
sometimes, I've found, when they make an announcement/hoopla like Mr. B did about this dinner date, they're testing the waters and feeling out your reaction.
If you keep it low-key and don't gush all over the place about their ideas, they may decide that it's not really a big deal to you after all, so no harm done if they renig. I know, I know... it's frustrating, but from my experience, he'll always take the path of least resistance... so if I don't show enough excitement about a proposal, that may be the last time I hear a word about it.
Unless, maybe, he was about to pop the question on that date and then chickened out. :o Oh, how my mind doth wander!
Well, either way, he needs that crash course, for sure!
If you've the patience, he may be educable!
Love,
Carolyn
BonesMS:
--- Quote from: Ami on June 03, 2008, 10:19:02 AM ---Sorry, Bones. I can tell you felt dissapointed and perhaps, unloved or uncared for. I hope your b/f can understand your feelings and give you a little TLC, anyway.
Maybe, he can give you a raincheck. I hope so. Love Ami
--- End quote ---
He's too clueless to be bothered to do that. This is someone who chose work over attending my graduation after he was given FOUR YEARS NOTICE! He tells me NOTHING about ANYTHING, his family, his graduation, NOTHING and I'm TIRED OF TALKING TO A BLANK WALL!
Bones
BonesMS:
--- Quote from: Certain Hope on June 03, 2008, 10:27:30 AM ---Oh, Bones... I remember dear Mr. Blueberry. Sounds like he needs a crash course in Remedial Romance 101!
Good for you, for telling him straight up what the problem is.
You know him best, but if he's just an ordinary guy... I'd say the fact that he's clueless :shock: pretty much comes with the territory :P and he's not unique in that. Takes alot of instruction to housebreak ermm... I mean, train... a male :lol:
and I'm only partly kiddin!
((((((((((((Bones)))))))))))))) here's one possibility:
sometimes, I've found, when they make an announcement/hoopla like Mr. B did about this dinner date, they're testing the waters and feeling out your reaction.
If you keep it low-key and don't gush all over the place about their ideas, they may decide that it's not really a big deal to you after all, so no harm done if they renig. I know, I know... it's frustrating, but from my experience, he'll always take the path of least resistance... so if I don't show enough excitement about a proposal, that may be the last time I hear a word about it.
Unless, maybe, he was about to pop the question on that date and then chickened out. :o Oh, how my mind doth wander!
Well, either way, he needs that crash course, for sure!
If you've the patience, he may be educable!
Love,
Carolyn
--- End quote ---
After over SEVEN YEARS of TRYING, my patience is GONE!
Bones
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