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Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
Ami:
Dear Bones,
N Doofus is so much like my M, clueless. Hope you get the test results,soon. Ami
BonesMS:
--- Quote from: Ami on August 16, 2008, 05:33:57 PM ---Dear Bones,
N Doofus is so much like my M, clueless. Hope you get the test results,soon. Ami
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Thanks, Ami.
I'm doing a sleep study tonight but don't know how quickly the results will be available. I'll have two more tests after that and will be consulting with my primary physician next week.
Bones
BonesMS:
--- Quote from: BonesMS on August 15, 2008, 12:35:47 PM ---
--- Quote from: Ami on August 15, 2008, 08:25:09 AM ---I am thinking of you, Bones. It sounds really scary to be waiting for test results. My heart goes out to you,friend. I will be awaiting good news. Ami
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Thanks, Ami.
To top it off, I get a phone call from NDoofus last night asking me about my health and test results. I was too tired to fuss much....just did not have the energy. Then she tells me that her youngest sister has been diagnosed with esophogeal cancer that may have mestastisized to her liver. This sister is younger than I am. I can empathize for her sister as I have had family members who died of cancer and I've seen how much pain they are in. Hopefully, facing her sister's mortality will be a wakeup call for NDoofus. NDoofus also informed me that she apologized to her other sister for violating her boundaries and that her sister accepted her apology. (I have to say, that is progress.) She stated that she is frightened for both her sister and me because of what each of us are facing. For now, I'm just focusing on resting as much as possible and trying to eat nutritious meals. BF is bringing me yogurt, milke, juice and cereal. Basically, I'm just trying to deal with this one day at a time.
Bones
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P.S.
At one point during her communications with me, she asked me to drive her sister to her chemotherapy appointments that are way over into another county. I told her that I cannot do it due to my own health issues. She just blathered on about how their family was willing to pay me. I finally had to raise my voice and state, unequivocally, that my health prevents me from driving long distances and that would put BOTH of us at risk! She finally backed off. (I HATE HAVING TO EXPLAIN THE OBVIOUS!) URGH! :P
Bones
Ami:
Dear Bones
N Doofus is so much like my M.Once my M was supposed to meet s/one at the subway station at a certain time to go in to Boston. She never showed up and the person went to the event without her.
Later ,my M showed up and had no idea why the person and was angry . My M thought the person was an angry jerk.
It is hopeless,Bone.
I am thinking of you, Bones. Ami
BonesMS:
--- Quote from: Ami on August 20, 2008, 09:09:02 AM ---Dear Bones
N Doofus is so much like my M.Once my M was supposed to meet s/one at the subway station at a certain time to go in to Boston. She never showed up and the person went to the event without her.
Later ,my M showed up and had no idea why the person and was angry . My M thought the person was an angry jerk.
It is hopeless,Bone.
I am thinking of you, Bones. Ami
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Thanks, Ami!
BTW, I think I saw a clone of my Nmother on TV while I was watching Judge David Young. The plaintiff just oozed all kinds of NASTY venom toward her daughter and granddaughter while she was clearly playing favorites with her son and grandson. She even attempted to justify calling a 10-year-old girl all kinds of obscene names, including a derogatory racist name because the child is part Hispanic. Needless to say, Judge David WENT OFF ON THE PLAINTIFF BIG TIME!!!! Before she admitted to this, the judge asked his bailiff to escort the 10-year-old girl and 5-year-old boy from the courtroom. While clearly snubbing the 10-year-old girl, she wanted to say something else to the 5-year-old boy and the judge bluntly told her, "No, you may NOT!" When the judge made an observation about the 10-year-old being frightened, the plaintiff sneered and stated: "Crocodile tears!" That made Judge David angry, then he blew his stack when she attempted to justify her calling a young child obscene names. I was SO GLAD when the judge dismissed the plaintiff's case! (I found it interesting that the one of the defendants, the plaintiff's own daughter, had not called her mother, "Mom", for several years because of her obvious nastiness.)
Bones
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