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Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
Tweety:
Hope,
Im so glad you brought up that question. The pre-recovery me would have had to tell them exactly why I don't want to talk , as in you did this and that. I'm actually experiencing this with another woman friend. She called me 8 times yesterday to wish me a happy Birthday (I'm assuming since it was my b-day). I have had to distance myself from her...I didn't answer the phone, She could have just left a message, and I'm sure I would have called her back tothank her, but 8 times. A little over the top an no message very strange. So I guess I was right in not answering. I just can't get sucked back in. What would I have said? Please don't call anymore your way TOOOOOOOOOOOO extreme , your all over the place..i don't know. But I'll say the old me would have wanted to "rip" the mask off her and show her who she was. That's just not my job anymore.. I have healthier relationships now and there is give and take and I don't feel the need to take someones inventory for them anymore. I'm retired...........lol ..Just another person God put into my life , or brought back so I can learn new behaviors. They seem to be commingout of the woodwork lately...I'm sure I'll be posting here again.. More chance for growth
Tweety
Hopalong:
Hi Tweety,
I worked in medical centers for a while and I was often amazed at how aggressive young [edit: male--thanks Janet!] doctors could be. Occurred to me that not only were they confused about who god was, but they'd also been so golden for so long that they wouldn't hear "No" from women. Or, that they'd try to get attention in really childish ways.
Didn't make them evil, but they often seemed despite their intelligence to be sort of socially deaf.
I'm glad this guy apologized, and I think your assertiveness may have helped a lot of future women (and him as well).
Hope the tension eases.
Hops
JanetLG:
Hops and Tweety,
I don't think the 'doctors thinking they're god' applies just to male ones, unfortunately. My stepson's girlfriend is a newly-qualified doctor, and she seems to have trouble dealing with the HUMAN RACE. She's still unemployed, and the last time we spoke, she was saying she thinks she should be guaranteed a job after all the hard work she's done - never mind the fact that training costs *taxpayers* £250,000 per trainee - I'd quite llike her to get a job so that I can start getting some value for money. :) :)
Do they have a part of their training where they are actually taught how to be supercilious, or does medical training just attract that kind of person? Dunno. :?
Sorry, rant over.
Janet
BonesMS:
--- Quote from: Certain Hope on August 16, 2007, 07:48:33 AM ---
--- Quote from: BonesMS on August 15, 2007, 10:33:05 PM ---Thanks, Hope!
I'm tending to keep my distance now even though she just recently sent me an e-mail asking why she hasn't heard from me.
Bones
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Dear Bones,
Do you want to tell her why you haven't contacted her?
Hope
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I need to give myself some space to cool off before I say anything. If I speak in anger, I may say things that I'll regret later.
Bones
BonesMS:
--- Quote from: Tweety on August 16, 2007, 10:20:32 AM ---Bones,
Yes I do believe he has crossed some lines. So hopefully he got the message, and he will keep his sexual stuff to himself.
Tweety
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Otherwise, he's in for some deep legal trouble!
Bones
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