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Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
BonesMS:
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TRIGGER WARNING!!!!
This "therapist" is a NIGHTMARE!!!! It's idiots like this that makes it harder to find a decent therapist I can trust.
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What an awful situation. That poor lady. Yes, I agree, some therapists (some people, really!) just need to be locked in a cupboard and kept away from people. The right therapist can be life changing - the wrong equally so, I guess.xx
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Yeah!
BonesMS:
Just wanted to vent my annoyance somewhere.
One of my neighbors invited me to her condo unit for Christmas Day. At the time she invited me, she made a comment about the fact that I have no family. (Excuse me? Are you inviting me because you feel sorry for me? If so, save it!) I asked her if I could come later as some friends, one who is bed-ridden, also asked to see me. The shut-ins can't drive over to visit me because they are Shut-Ins...hello? The neighbor who invited me got huffy while telling me that, yes, I could come by later after visiting the friends who are shut-ins on Christmas Day. I take care of my visit, come home, and find the neighbor's condo unit all dark and no answer at the door.
I saw her a few days ago and she gave me a sulky face.
WTF?!?!?!?
If you are inviting me because you enjoy my company, that's great. If the only reason you are inviting me is because you feel sorry for me and want to look good to your other "Christian" friends, then don't bother!
GRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: BonesMS on January 10, 2018, 03:41:52 PM ---Just wanted to vent my annoyance somewhere.
One of my neighbors invited me to her condo unit for Christmas Day. At the time she invited me, she made a comment about the fact that I have no family. (Excuse me? Are you inviting me because you feel sorry for me? If so, save it!) I asked her if I could come later as some friends, one who is bed-ridden, also asked to see me. The shut-ins can't drive over to visit me because they are Shut-Ins...hello? The neighbor who invited me got huffy while telling me that, yes, I could come by later after visiting the friends who are shut-ins on Christmas Day. I take care of my visit, come home, and find the neighbor's condo unit all dark and no answer at the door.
I saw her a few days ago and she gave me a sulky face.
WTF?!?!?!?
If you are inviting me because you enjoy my company, that's great. If the only reason you are inviting me is because you feel sorry for me and want to look good to your other "Christian" friends, then don't bother!
GRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Oh Bones, that sounds horrible, is she someone you know well? Had she gone out or was she pretending not to be in? I get that there might have been an emergency but you'd think she'd have said that next time she saw you?
I know what you mean about not wanting people to feel sorry for you. I've had friends over the years (I thought they were friends) who were incredibly supportive when I was going through a rough patch (much appreciated) but then vanished when things got better and there wasn't a problem going on for me anymore. It made me wonder if they'd just felt sorry for me instead of wanting to be with me because they enjoyed spending time with me. It's not a nice feeling. I'm glad you got to see your other friend on the day though xx
BonesMS:
--- Quote from: Twoapenny on January 10, 2018, 03:57:41 PM ---
--- Quote from: BonesMS on January 10, 2018, 03:41:52 PM ---Just wanted to vent my annoyance somewhere.
One of my neighbors invited me to her condo unit for Christmas Day. At the time she invited me, she made a comment about the fact that I have no family. (Excuse me? Are you inviting me because you feel sorry for me? If so, save it!) I asked her if I could come later as some friends, one who is bed-ridden, also asked to see me. The shut-ins can't drive over to visit me because they are Shut-Ins...hello? The neighbor who invited me got huffy while telling me that, yes, I could come by later after visiting the friends who are shut-ins on Christmas Day. I take care of my visit, come home, and find the neighbor's condo unit all dark and no answer at the door.
I saw her a few days ago and she gave me a sulky face.
WTF?!?!?!?
If you are inviting me because you enjoy my company, that's great. If the only reason you are inviting me is because you feel sorry for me and want to look good to your other "Christian" friends, then don't bother!
GRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Oh Bones, that sounds horrible, is she someone you know well? Had she gone out or was she pretending not to be in? I get that there might have been an emergency but you'd think she'd have said that next time she saw you?
I know what you mean about not wanting people to feel sorry for you. I've had friends over the years (I thought they were friends) who were incredibly supportive when I was going through a rough patch (much appreciated) but then vanished when things got better and there wasn't a problem going on for me anymore. It made me wonder if they'd just felt sorry for me instead of wanting to be with me because they enjoyed spending time with me. It's not a nice feeling. I'm glad you got to see your other friend on the day though xx
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We've been neighbors for quite a few years. I don't know what she did on Christmas Day and I didn't bother to ask when she gave me that sulky face on sight. I'm not going to waste my energy on that. I get irritated when people attempt to use me to make themselves look good. To me, that's some phony $h!t.
I'm glad I got to see my other friends and got the chance to spoil their fur-baby. (They have a cat.)
BonesMS:
https://www.reddit.com/r/MomForAMinute/comments/51vvvk/welcome/
I just found out about this Reddit group.
I'm looking it over.
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