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Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
Twoapenny:
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--- Quote from: Twoapenny on May 10, 2018, 10:30:24 AM ---Ah, Bones, there is nothing more frustrating than people not reading what's in front of them, especially when you've put it all out there so clearly! And when people say things like "well copies only cost x" - it's your time and expertise that counts not sticking something in a photocopier! Some people are just cheeky.
I'm sorry about your eye; I am so squeemish when it comes to eye balls that the thought of any kind of surgery makes my toes curl! I hope it wasn't too painful; is that the kind they do to correct sight or is it more to do with cataracts? I hope whatever it was for it has helped and not held you back too much since xx
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Thanks, Tupp!
I get so aggravated when I put in a lot of work into a contract to make sure all the "i's" are dotted, all the "t's" are crossed, with everything clearly spelled out to ensure a meeting of the minds only to have the client not bother to read any of it along with comments starting with: "But I assumed....blah, blah, blah!" I HATE THAT CRAP!!!! I've encountered some idiots who tried to insist they shouldn't be held accountable to a contract they SIGNED simply because they didn't bother to read it BEFORE SIGNING IT!!! I recall watching Judge Judy, on television, ripping a defendant a new A$$HOLE when they tried that defense! It was NOT pretty! The defendant was ordered to PAY for the work that was done according to the terms of the contract that they signed!
The eye surgery involved using a laser because the doctor discovered that my retina had torn and bled. That was kinda-sorta an emergency to prevent my retina from detaching completely. Not fun either way and I had no choice.
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Ooh, Bones, the eye surgery sounds very unpleasant, I hope it all heals up okay, I don't even like having an eye test for new glasses so the thought of surgery is not a happy one. I hope it's all okay now, difficult when we have to have unpleasant procedures but, like you say, the alternative is even less pleasant so sometimes we just have no choice in the matter.
Yes, people not reading or just expecting you to do everything for them, it frustrates me so much. I have it all the time with my son; I send in reams of paperwork, reports, observations, etc etc and you can tell from the responses we get back that no-one's read any of it; it's easier for them to sit there and have me spoon feed them the information each time. No regard for how it feels for my son to listen to a long list of negatives every time we see someone (and of course, as we're asking for help, we have to focus on the negatives as that's what we need the help with!). The last time the education panel asked for a meeting I refused; I said I had nothing more to say, I'd sent in all the information we had along with my own thoughts and observations and my son's own requests and so I had no more information to give. It's very frustrating when people think their time is more important than yours and so think nothing of you putting all that work in but don't see why they should spend half an hour reading it! Bones, I think you would make a good Judge Judy!! Lol xx xx
BonesMS:
--- Quote from: Twoapenny on May 12, 2018, 03:18:51 AM ---
--- Quote from: BonesMS on May 10, 2018, 11:19:12 AM ---
--- Quote from: Twoapenny on May 10, 2018, 10:30:24 AM ---Ah, Bones, there is nothing more frustrating than people not reading what's in front of them, especially when you've put it all out there so clearly! And when people say things like "well copies only cost x" - it's your time and expertise that counts not sticking something in a photocopier! Some people are just cheeky.
I'm sorry about your eye; I am so squeemish when it comes to eye balls that the thought of any kind of surgery makes my toes curl! I hope it wasn't too painful; is that the kind they do to correct sight or is it more to do with cataracts? I hope whatever it was for it has helped and not held you back too much since xx
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Thanks, Tupp!
I get so aggravated when I put in a lot of work into a contract to make sure all the "i's" are dotted, all the "t's" are crossed, with everything clearly spelled out to ensure a meeting of the minds only to have the client not bother to read any of it along with comments starting with: "But I assumed....blah, blah, blah!" I HATE THAT CRAP!!!! I've encountered some idiots who tried to insist they shouldn't be held accountable to a contract they SIGNED simply because they didn't bother to read it BEFORE SIGNING IT!!! I recall watching Judge Judy, on television, ripping a defendant a new A$$HOLE when they tried that defense! It was NOT pretty! The defendant was ordered to PAY for the work that was done according to the terms of the contract that they signed!
The eye surgery involved using a laser because the doctor discovered that my retina had torn and bled. That was kinda-sorta an emergency to prevent my retina from detaching completely. Not fun either way and I had no choice.
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Ooh, Bones, the eye surgery sounds very unpleasant, I hope it all heals up okay, I don't even like having an eye test for new glasses so the thought of surgery is not a happy one. I hope it's all okay now, difficult when we have to have unpleasant procedures but, like you say, the alternative is even less pleasant so sometimes we just have no choice in the matter.
Yes, people not reading or just expecting you to do everything for them, it frustrates me so much. I have it all the time with my son; I send in reams of paperwork, reports, observations, etc etc and you can tell from the responses we get back that no-one's read any of it; it's easier for them to sit there and have me spoon feed them the information each time. No regard for how it feels for my son to listen to a long list of negatives every time we see someone (and of course, as we're asking for help, we have to focus on the negatives as that's what we need the help with!). The last time the education panel asked for a meeting I refused; I said I had nothing more to say, I'd sent in all the information we had along with my own thoughts and observations and my son's own requests and so I had no more information to give. It's very frustrating when people think their time is more important than yours and so think nothing of you putting all that work in but don't see why they should spend half an hour reading it! Bones, I think you would make a good Judge Judy!! Lol xx xx
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Thanks, Tupp.
I'm trying to take things one day at a time. I had a follow up appointment this past Thursday and have to go back in two weeks for another follow up.
LOL about Judge Judy!
Twoapenny:
Hey, Bonesie, how are you doing? Have you had your check ups for your eye yet? Hope everything is healing up well and not causing you any problems :) Has the weather improved yet? It's so changeable here at the minute, during the week we walked into the cinema in scorching heat and we came out three hours later to cold rain and damp mist. People were standing at the station shivering in their shorts. It's so easy to get caught out. Has rained for three days straight now and two new cats have appeared in the neighbourhood - one all black like a witch's cat and one that looks like Sylvester (I tort I taw a Putty Tat, that one ;) ). Look v cute, I will attempt to befriend them and find out who they live with :) xx
BonesMS:
--- Quote from: Twoapenny on May 26, 2018, 01:41:35 AM ---Hey, Bonesie, how are you doing? Have you had your check ups for your eye yet? Hope everything is healing up well and not causing you any problems :) Has the weather improved yet? It's so changeable here at the minute, during the week we walked into the cinema in scorching heat and we came out three hours later to cold rain and damp mist. People were standing at the station shivering in their shorts. It's so easy to get caught out. Has rained for three days straight now and two new cats have appeared in the neighbourhood - one all black like a witch's cat and one that looks like Sylvester (I tort I taw a Putty Tat, that one ;) ). Look v cute, I will attempt to befriend them and find out who they live with :) xx
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Hi, Tupp.
So far, the eye doctor tells me that my retina is healing. He wants to check it again around the middle of June.
The weather here is just as crazy....raining one minute, hot the next, then back to rain. UGH!
Those kitties sound CUTE!!!!!!!! :)
BonesMS:
--- Quote from: BonesMS on May 10, 2018, 11:19:12 AM ---
--- Quote from: Twoapenny on May 10, 2018, 10:30:24 AM ---Ah, Bones, there is nothing more frustrating than people not reading what's in front of them, especially when you've put it all out there so clearly! And when people say things like "well copies only cost x" - it's your time and expertise that counts not sticking something in a photocopier! Some people are just cheeky.
I'm sorry about your eye; I am so squeemish when it comes to eye balls that the thought of any kind of surgery makes my toes curl! I hope it wasn't too painful; is that the kind they do to correct sight or is it more to do with cataracts? I hope whatever it was for it has helped and not held you back too much since xx
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Thanks, Tupp!
I get so aggravated when I put in a lot of work into a contract to make sure all the "i's" are dotted, all the "t's" are crossed, with everything clearly spelled out to ensure a meeting of the minds only to have the client not bother to read any of it along with comments starting with: "But I assumed....blah, blah, blah!" I HATE THAT CRAP!!!! I've encountered some idiots who tried to insist they shouldn't be held accountable to a contract they SIGNED simply because they didn't bother to read it BEFORE SIGNING IT!!! I recall watching Judge Judy, on television, ripping a defendant a new A$$HOLE when they tried that defense! It was NOT pretty! The defendant was ordered to PAY for the work that was done according to the terms of the contract that they signed!
The eye surgery involved using a laser because the doctor discovered that my retina had torn and bled. That was kinda-sorta an emergency to prevent my retina from detaching completely. Not fun either way and I had no choice.
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And the !@#$#@% AGGRAVATION is BACK AGAIN because the client DIDN'T BOTHER TO READ THE CONTRACT!!!!!!!!!
The contract CLEARLY states that the retainer I charge covers the first hour of researching. After the first hour, then the rate switches over to $21.00 an hour while researching. The client's request turned out to have an unexpected complication which added on to my research time to get it resolved. I send the client my invoice for services rendered, charging her for THREE HOURS of researching PLUS the cost of copying over 100 pages, and she responds: "Why can't you just subtract your retainer from what you sent me?"
!@##@!@#!#%#%!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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