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BonesMS

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #1440 on: March 10, 2010, 08:25:32 AM »
I hope the part arrives soon:).  I'm sure you've figured out every way to keep as warm as you can.



I'm hoping the part arrives soon, too, and I'm also hoping that is the ONLY problem the furnace has.

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« Reply #1441 on: March 10, 2010, 08:17:20 PM »
Hi Bones,

Sorry to hear about your furnace problems. Hope all turns out well.......... soon. ((hugs))

Great job speaking up to that jerk at the library. Kudos to you!  :D

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« Reply #1442 on: March 10, 2010, 09:27:20 PM »
Hi Bones,

Sorry to hear about your furnace problems. Hope all turns out well.......... soon. ((hugs))

Great job speaking up to that jerk at the library. Kudos to you!  :D

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Thanks, ((Seasons))!

The part is supposed to be installed some time tomorrow.  I'm just hoping that the furnace won't need any other additional parts.

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #1443 on: March 10, 2010, 09:43:36 PM »
Good to hear the part is arriving, keep those fingers crossed!!


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« Reply #1444 on: March 10, 2010, 09:54:26 PM »
Good to hear the part is arriving, keep those fingers crossed!!



Definitely!!!!

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« Reply #1445 on: March 11, 2010, 10:42:46 AM »
Furnace fixed!   :)

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« Reply #1446 on: March 11, 2010, 09:42:58 PM »
Yessss!!:))))

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« Reply #1447 on: March 11, 2010, 10:11:35 PM »
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« Reply #1448 on: March 12, 2010, 07:56:31 AM »
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One of my morning routines is to read the online advice columns such as "Dear Abby".  This morning's column had a letter that had my jaw dropping!!!!!!  I'll see if I can put the link here so you can read it for yourselves.

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« Reply #1449 on: March 12, 2010, 08:04:00 AM »
http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/?uc_full_date=20100312

Here's the link I was referring to.  It's the very first letter of the advice column.

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« Reply #1450 on: March 13, 2010, 07:10:01 AM »
I was watching the genealogy show last night, that focused on Emmitt Smith, and it brought up my own memories of when I first discovered the truth about my ethnic heritage.  It still enrages me that NWomb-Donor deliberately cut me off from my father's side of the family because she was such a racist!

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« Reply #1451 on: March 14, 2010, 08:58:53 AM »
I was reading one of the letters in "Dear Abby" this morning where a person was venting about canceling a party because only three people sent her an RSVP.  It triggered another memory of where the N-Relatives attempted to force me to act as the "family slave".

I had been invited to attend the wedding anniversary party for my adopted sister.  When I called her to RSVP my attendance, she responded with:  "Oh, good!  Now you can drive here and pick up this person and drive there and pick up that person, etc., etc., etc., ad nauseum!  She didn't even bother to ASK if I could or was willing to criss-cross the ENTIRE COUNTY to pick up people who were ABSOLUTE TOTAL STRANGERS TO ME AND PAY FOR ALL OF THE GAS OUT OF MY POCKET WITHOUT BEING REIMBURSED FOR THIS EXPENSE!!!!!!   :P

When I pointed out that I could not do that, her response was:  "Well, consider yourself DIS-INVITED, you @#$%!"

And these @#$%& can't understand why I don't want to "socialize" with them???????????????

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« Reply #1452 on: March 14, 2010, 09:29:10 AM »
Oh (((Bones)))) How demeaning!!!                                                         Ami
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.        Eleanor Roosevelt

Most of our problems come from losing contact with our instincts,with the age old wisdom stored within us.
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« Reply #1453 on: March 14, 2010, 09:32:48 AM »
Oh (((Bones)))) How demeaning!!!                                                         Ami

Yes!

Thanks, (((((Ami)))))))!

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« Reply #1454 on: March 15, 2010, 12:34:21 AM »
Hi Bones, 

I feel like I should should ask if I can "chime in" but I think it is better than "lurking" here every day and eavesdropping on your thread. 
I wanted to tell you I "follow along" and say that so much of what you write echoes and resonates and validates many of the things I think, feel etc  and wanted to let you know that I may not be able to resist chiming in --  (not to imply that I have any Real way of Knowing any of that -- but my interpretation at least)
I had just read "Dear Abby" the other day right before you posted so I immediately knew what you meant about the cake woman -- on one hand, it would be so easy to write off her behavior but that means they all have to live with it!  So SHE gets lots of cake, everyone DREADS cake days and she wins every dream of making everyone uncomfortable --  DIABOLICAL!  I can hear Jeff Foxworthy saying, "she mi-ig-ht be a narcissist!"  And just reading the letter gave me one of the PTSD moments (minor?) -- not that exact situation but that "creeped out" feeling.  I am more sensitized than ever to wanting to "run for the hills" when anyone around starts displaying those traits.
Thanks again,
Biddy     

PS I get in trouble all the time for being too Blunt -- apologies in advance all!