Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?

[BonesMS]

Another interesting thing I noticed during my appointment yesterday...the supervisor did not have my file folder in front of her.  Apparently, she couldn't find that in the first counselor's office either.  (I think it was fortunate that she found my business plan and R.I.S.E. recommendations where she did, even if it was separated from my file folder.)  After our conversation yesterday, now I'm wondering if she's going to dig for that and look through it to see what's REALLY there, what SHOULD be there but is NOT there, etc.

Bones

[BonesMS]

Just had a run-in with an N this morning while taking out the trash.  She was going on and on, in her monologue, about how DARE the HOA take HER to court for not paying her condo assessments, (she hasn't paid a penny for over TWO YEARS and she's PROUD of that!   ) and kept ranting on about how the HOA is conducting illegal activities against her and the judge is on HER side!!!

(It's TOO early in the morning and I'm not even sure why she's telling me all this!  I'm NOT her buddy!)   

Bones

A bit of a follow up on this and it appears it's causing some legal messes in my community.

Unfortunately, this Nut-Case N is on one of the committees that I'm on and she has started running her mouth about her lawsuits to everyone within and outside this committee.  I've started making quiet inquiries about whether or not her presence on this committee constitutes a legal conflict of interest since she is also suing the community, as a whole, of which this committee is a part.

EWWWWW!!!!  I DON'T LIKE MESSSES LIKE THIS!!!!!

Bones

[Guest]

Well done Bones. I hope you can get other committee members to see your point too (which sounds valid to me).

[BonesMS]

Well done Bones. I hope you can get other committee members to see your point too (which sounds valid to me).

Thanks, Guest.

I've quietly raised the question, privately, to the chairperson of the committee and I'm awaiting a response back.

Bones

[Guest]

Good. If you need to be loud and public though, will you do that? Just for you to consider Bones.

[BonesMS]

Good. If you need to be loud and public though, will you do that? Just for you to consider Bones.

Thanks, Guest.

I can be loud and public if I need to be.  What complicates things is that this N tends to be a sue-er, suing her "enemies" at the drop of a hat regardless whether or not the grounds are legit.  She's become a right royal pain in the rump!

Bones

[BonesMS]

The response I got from the chairperson was that as long as the N didn't do her DUMP in committee meetings, she was willing to listen to whatever the N had to say.  I described how the N accosted me in the parking lot and, knowing what she is doing to us as a community while trying to force me to side with her, I don't feel comfortable being around this N.

We'll have to see how things go.

Bones

[BonesMS]

 

[BonesMS]

Aches and pains today.

[BonesMS]

Hope everyone is safe today.

[BonesMS]

Woke up at 2:00 AM and can't get back to sleep.

Dealing with another community issue, different neighbor, that might get ugly.

[BonesMS]

Managed to sleep until 3:00 AM before waking up.

The situation with the second neighbor is still being discussed with the HOA board and property management.

[BonesMS]

I probably should explain a bit more with what is going on with Neighbor #2, who happens to be in my building.

About a month ago, the husband stopped me in the hallway, as I was heading out, to talk to me about the condition of the common areas in the building.  I was in a rush and couldn't chat long.  He told me that he and his wife were looking into getting something done and having all the neighbors in the building pay for it.  I told him that it's not in my budget as I'm dealing with medical issues and kept walking.

The other evening, when bf came over, he found a note stuck in my door announcing that this husband and wife had taken it upon themselves to privately hire a contractor to work in the common areas of our condominium building and that they were going to come to our doors and COLLECT CASH for their private contractor!!!!!!  I read that note, read it a second time, then read it a third time and each time my reaction was:  "WTF?!?!?!?"

Where I live, we are members of a condominium home owners association and we pay condo fees so that our property management can maintain all the common areas, including the common areas inside my building.  It just felt SO WRONG for my upstairs neighbor to make a unilateral decision, hire a contractor on her own, then attempt to force me and other residents in the building to pay for her decision!  She NEVER discussed this with us beforehand!  She simply ANNOUNCED that THIS is what SHE is going to do and EVERYONE in the building NEEDS TO REIMBURSE HER WITH CASH!!!!

I contacted the president of the HOA Board and quoted the note to him.  He forwarded my e-mail to the other members of the Board and also to property management.  The response I got from the Board president, HOA Board and property management was unanimous.  This neighbor does NOT have the authority to do what she is attempting to do!  According to our By-Laws, she is REQUIRED to obtain EXPRESS WRITTEN PERMISSION from the Board to do anything in the common area of the building she lives in.  Furthermore, she does NOT have the authority to demand cash from her neighbors for what she is attempting to do!

Now I'm waiting for "the other shoe to drop" the next time I see her or her husband.

Sheesh!  All I want to do is be left in peace in my own home without a lot of unnecessary hassle!

Bones

[BonesMS]

Dag!  It sounds worse with your single-family-home neighbors, Guest, than at my condominium development!  BTW, we also have some idiots who don't know how to LIFT the lid of the dumpster to put their garbage in!  Some have been dumb enough to simply dump it on the ground WITH THEIR NAMES AND ADDRESSES STILL ON THEM!!!  Then they huff and bitch when they get the warning letter, wondering HOW anyone knew it was them!  DUH!!!

At one time, we had rats showing up around here and I don't want to see THAT kind of vermin returning because said-idiots don't know how to put their trash INSIDE the dumpsters!

I'll NEVER understand some people!  They just don't make sense!

Bones

[BonesMS]

If I understand the HOA Board correctly, they are going to send a notice to everyone in my building regarding the situation that had been previously discussed.  So far, things have been quiet with Neighbor #2 regarding her "plans" for the building.