Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?

[BonesMS]

Bones - Did you see this one? The second one is about an N Mother who is so enmeshed with the Dad that being NC w/ Mom likely means relationship with Dad will be strained too.  Reading the article - I found something to be grateful for - I loved my Dad alot, he was a wonderful man, and I was always on good terms with my Dad until he died in 2000. I did not discover my mom was N until 2008/2009 and did not go NC until 2010, so he never knew about it and it never affected our relationship.

Anyway, thanks for your posts Bones. Hope you are doing good today.

Thanks, Ales2.

Which advice column are you referring to?  Since I read several everyday, I'm having some difficulty remembering which one has the enmeshment discussion.

Thanks, again.

[Ales2]

Hi Bones - Sorry forgot to post the link.

http://www.creators.com/advice/dear-margo/you-do-not-have-to-answer-every-question-that-is-asked.html

Its the second story here although the first one is good too.  You've probably already seen it.

Happy NWombDonor Day Bones.  I feel just the same about my NMother.

[BonesMS]

Hi Bones - Sorry forgot to post the link.

http://www.creators.com/advice/dear-margo/you-do-not-have-to-answer-every-question-that-is-asked.html

Its the second story here although the first one is good too.  You've probably already seen it.

Happy NWombDonor Day Bones.  I feel just the same about my NMother.

Thanks, Ales2.  Now I remember the letter.  If the LW2 could contact any one us here, s/he would find plenty of company!  We GET IT!!!  Been there, done that.

Just got home a little while ago from the Green Man Festival weekend and managed to enjoy myself.  Participated in a couple of drum circles and, today, I decided to honor my African-American/African ancestors by wearing an outfit that was actually made in Africa.  (Bought it some years ago from an African co-worker before I retired.)  I also wore silk flowers in my hair to celebrate Spring.  Needless to say, I got a LOT of reactions!!!  Some LOVED the outfit and I enjoyed the compliments.  Others HATED it and/or made snarky comments.  I shrugged those off and walked away.  I knew why I chose what I wore and that's all that mattered between me and my ancestors.  Nuff said!

[BonesMS]

having trouble sleeping.................

[Meh]

Sleepy Time Tea

[BonesMS]

Sleepy Time Tea

Having digestive issues due to eating something that doesn't agree with me.

[Meh]

 :(Canned Barley soup, oatmeal, rice.

[BonesMS]

:(Canned Barley soup, oatmeal, rice.

Thanks!

[Meh]

Yeah, here is more: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/BRAT_diet (The BRAT diet)

Barley and oatmeal aren't on there though, they are both supposed to be soothing to the lining of the stomach intestines.
Also it's the temporary exclusion of other things like acidic orange juice/coffee.

[BonesMS]

Yeah, here is more: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/BRAT_diet (The BRAT diet)

Barley and oatmeal aren't on there though, they are both supposed to be soothing to the lining of the stomach intestines.
Also it's the temporary exclusion of other things like acidic orange juice/coffee.

Okay.

[BonesMS]

One of the drawbacks of attending community festivities is that sooner or later I'm going to encounter a DRUNK!  While I was dancing to the music of a live band, one woman got within INCHES of my face and I received a substantial blast of alcohol-laden breath!  EEWWWWWWW!!!!!!!!!!  YUCK!!!!!!!  I couldn't back away immediately because of the crush of people behind me and on either side of me!   

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checking in..................

[BonesMS]

Some of the questions discussed here are something else!

http://www.slate.com/articles/life/dear_prudence/2012/05/dear_prudie_my_boyfriend_has_a_mannequin_named_barbara_that_he_kisses_and_talks_to_.html

[Meh]

One of the drawbacks of attending community festivities is that sooner or later I'm going to encounter a DRUNK!  While I was dancing to the music of a live band, one woman got within INCHES of my face and I received a substantial blast of alcohol-laden breath!  EEWWWWWWW!!!!!!!!!!  YUCK!!!!!!!  I couldn't back away immediately because of the crush of people behind me and on either side of me!   

  I had no idea you were so wild Bones. What kind of music?

[BonesMS]

One of the drawbacks of attending community festivities is that sooner or later I'm going to encounter a DRUNK!  While I was dancing to the music of a live band, one woman got within INCHES of my face and I received a substantial blast of alcohol-laden breath!  EEWWWWWWW!!!!!!!!!!  YUCK!!!!!!!  I couldn't back away immediately because of the crush of people behind me and on either side of me!   

  I had no idea you were so wild Bones. What kind of music?

It was a live band that played an eclectic selection of music...some Beatles, some music they composed themselves, interesting instruments like dulcimer, Chapman Stick, and Congo Drums.