This is thought provoking!!!!
http://www.slate.com/articles/life/family/2013/02/abusive_parents_what_do_grown_children_owe_the_mothers_and_fathers_who_made.html
I find it odd, I don't think I've ever read an article or spoken to anyone who thinks people should keep in contact with or renew contact with abusive partners so I don't get why anyone thinks people should with their parents? I understand completely why some people do - it's a hard bond to break - but once you've made the decision putting yourself back in a place where someone treats you like dirt and damages your health seems like an odd thing for anyone to think is a good idea. I'm getting so many people these days telling me I should make up with my mum - if she decrazies herself I'd be happy to but she's as mad as a box of frogs and I'm hanging on to my nice, quiet, calm life and she can stick to her fantasy world and we're both happy. I bumped into someone yesterday who was asking if I talk to my mum yet and when I said no she said "Bless her, poor thing". I wanted to slap her, that woman has done me so much damage yet people seem to feel sorry for her and think I'm in the wrong for protecting myself?! It's a funny old world sometimes.
Bonesie are you back online now? xx
I got that response also, I think somebody asked me if I did anything special for mother's day, and I said no my mother has mental problems.....and the person, said awww....that is so sad for her.
Made me so angry, people having sympathy for them.
The Nar people can treat their children like garbage without even a slight hint of concern or regret....and then the surrounding community supports them.
And the pain/damage that is caused by the parent's behavior towards the children goes on in a rather invisible way-- and no understand or concern in the community.
My aunt supports my mother, her husband supports her behavior, nobody ever says to her that she is mean or wrong or nasty or abusive. Although I think one therapist finally told her to be nice...lasted for 2 months then the switch flipped again.
Yeah this article was a very confirming thing for me to read.
My father has been ill and my alcoholic brother and narcissistic mother have VERBALLY badgered me to contact him, which I did but I still haven't been a part of his life.
After the two people verbally pushed me over the edge I went home and was crying hysterically, just totally ferking insanely crying like a crazy person. The messed up emotions were just too much for me.
Why can't we sue them? I wish I was a lawyer I would find some way to sue the hell out of mother.
