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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #5205 on: December 05, 2013, 06:20:44 AM »
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For anyone to treat twins like THIS......UGH!!!!!   :P
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« Reply #5207 on: December 06, 2013, 01:50:59 AM »
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« Reply #5210 on: December 06, 2013, 11:39:20 AM »
I am SO FRUSTRATED right now!

A small group of us have been trying to plan a Community Holiday Party and we have been encountering one obstacle after another from those, on the Board, who have never really participated in ANYTHING.  One of them used to be a committee chair and the last time we had a social event, he pissed, bitched, and moaned about how he did NOT want to be involved with the committee anymore.  Fine...so be it.  The committee has started to plan without him and NOW he's pissing, bitching, and moaning because we have NOT included HIM!  What does he want?!?!?  I'm tired of the passive-aggressive CRAP!

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« Reply #5211 on: December 06, 2013, 04:38:46 PM »
Just got off the phone after being called by one of my cousins who is also an N.  Just let him blather on about his favorite subject...himself.  His second wife just divorced him and he can't understand why she left him.  I didn't say much because he doesn't listen to anyone else except himself. 

I did raise my voice when he started violating my boundaries and told him that if he continued, I was hanging up.  Then he retreated back to his favorite subject....himself....until he talked himself out and hung up.  Apparently the only way to get his attention is to shout at him.  I've got better things to do with my time than that!   :P
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« Reply #5212 on: December 07, 2013, 04:56:16 AM »
Just got off the phone after being called by one of my cousins who is also an N.  Just let him blather on about his favorite subject...himself.  His second wife just divorced him and he can't understand why she left him.  I didn't say much because he doesn't listen to anyone else except himself. 

I did raise my voice when he started violating my boundaries and told him that if he continued, I was hanging up.  Then he retreated back to his favorite subject....himself....until he talked himself out and hung up.  Apparently the only way to get his attention is to shout at him.  I've got better things to do with my time than that!   :P

Turns out he's also Googled my address.  LAST thing I want or need is to have him turn up on my doorstep UNINVITED and UNANNOUNCED because, in his delusional little world, HE IS PERFECT and I should be forced to bask in the glow of HIS PERFECTION!  UGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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« Reply #5215 on: December 07, 2013, 06:22:48 AM »
Hope the weekend gets better for you Bonesie  (((((((((((((((((((((Bones))))))))))))))))))))))))

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #5216 on: December 07, 2013, 06:26:19 AM »
Hope the weekend gets better for you Bonesie  (((((((((((((((((((((Bones))))))))))))))))))))))))

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Yesterday was really plucking my last nerve!  Having this N regurgitating Faux Noise at me and talking down to me just PISSED ME OFF BIG TIME!!!!   :P

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« Reply #5219 on: December 08, 2013, 12:07:05 PM »
Still struggling with the aftermath of yesterday with sensory overload.  I thought I had sufficiently prepared myself, mentally, with being around people for a holiday dinner party in a restaurant.  Unfortunately, my efforts weren't enough.  The party room was still open to the rest of the restaurant with ALL the ambient noise.  Add to the noise, more than one person in our group were wearing necklaces that were FLASHING LIGHTS!  Add to that, a HUGE mirror on the wall that was REFLECTING THOSE FLASHING LIGHTS and my nervous system couldn't handle all this sensory input!  I had to keep fighting the urge to run and hide in a dark quiet place somewhere!  Knowing that the group of people I was with were only acquaintances, NOT friends, made the situation even more difficult.

If there had been another Aspie in the group, it might have made the situation a little easier as I wouldn't have felt alone and isolated.  Those on the Autism Spectrum would understand what I was struggling to deal with.

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