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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #5897 on: July 06, 2014, 02:49:18 PM »
I'm a bit annoyed at AncestryDNA at the moment.  I got some results back, along with links encouraging me to contact various "cousins".  One of the links gave me the sinking feeling that it was NOT a cousin but a closer relative that has not been on speaking terms for several years.  When I found documented evidence that my Dad and I are part African-American, this branch of the family got all pissy because they didn't want to be related to anyone that is less than "lily white".  My suspicions were confirmed a little while ago when the person contacted me and the "cousin" turned out to actually be my half-sister's grandson.  Can we say ... AWKWARD?

BTW, he was very polite.

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #5898 on: July 07, 2014, 08:01:19 AM »
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I'm wondering if I'm eligible for EyeCareAmerica?

Turns out I'm not because I don't know if my missing GCB has Glaucoma or not.  Apparently, being diagnosed with a cataract doesn't count.

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« Reply #5902 on: July 08, 2014, 10:48:03 AM »
I was channel surfing over the weekend and came across a program called "The Royal Diaries".  This episode focused on Princess Elizabeth Tudor, who later became Elizabeth I.  The way her father, King Henry VIII was portrayed made me think he was a Narcissist.  I felt sorry for his three children.
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« Reply #5904 on: July 09, 2014, 06:00:13 AM »
Trying to figure out something that has me scratching my head.  A few months ago, I got a phone call from the president of a volunteer organization that I'm a member of.  I stopped attending meetings as the organization no longer offered any activities that interested me.  During the course of the telephone conversation, the organization's president was being downright insulting, disrespectful, and refused to hear anything I had to say so I terminated the call.  I limited communications to email as the organization owed me money for something else and I wanted everything documented regarding who said what.

Well, the response I got back was to ask me why I didn't want the president of the organization to bring the money to my door.  I was also asked why I didn't want to accept a ride from him to meetings since I no longer drive at night.  Excuse me?  He calls me up, gives me attitude, insults my intelligence, is disrespectful and I'm supposed to just suck it up and invite him onto my property so he can pick up from where I terminated the conversation?  I don't think so.  It wouldn't surprise me that he told others that he "can't understand why I'm so uncooperative".  It wouldn't surprise me that he would deny what he said on the telephone and got nasty to me when I told him that I prefer communication via email.  I think he knew he wouldn't be able to deny what he said in writing.  I've seen that stupid game played too many times and I'm sick of it.

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« Reply #5906 on: July 09, 2014, 01:39:55 PM »
Just got a message a short while ago, from my half-sister's grandson, informing me that his mother, my half-sister's daughter wants to know my street address, phone number, e-mail address, etc., etc.  I responded back that it's simply easier to contact me via e-mail.  I have no intention of giving her any more information than that.  The last time she and I saw each other face-to-face was immediately after NWomb-Donor died and I was treated as if I were less than human.  When her mother, my half-sister died, I was excluded.  Any attempts from me to communicate was met with hostility.  So WHY does she want to know where I live now?  My  trust was trashed years ago so I prefer to keep them all at arm's length.

I look back on what took place ...  in 1997 I was dealing with the deaths of an adopted sister and NWombDonor within a four month span.  Three years later, in 2000, my half-sister also dies so I'm dealing with a lot of loss from 1997 to 2000.  During that time frame and afterward, this particular bunch couldn't be bothered to treat me like I was human, let alone family.  I learned to live my life without them.  I don't trust any of them and I haven't forgotten how they made me feel when I was dealing with several deaths in the family at one time.  I don't like being kicked while I'm down.  They can just leave me alone.
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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #5907 on: July 09, 2014, 01:51:18 PM »

“I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

― Maya Angelou
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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #5908 on: July 10, 2014, 05:45:19 AM »
Why is it that when I have to say "NO" to something, those making demands REFUSE to hear the word "NO"?  WTF?!?!?
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