Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?

[BonesMS]

No good deed goes unpunished!   

My elderly neighbor had me take him to the bank and I witnessed that his brother had COMPLETELY wiped out his account and left him OVERDRAWN while he was out of the country...using a debit card!  With the assistance of the bank employee, we closed that account in order to take his brother's name off and canceled the debit card that the brother was using.  In order to be able to do that, my neighbor needed $50 to open a new account in his name only.  I felt the right thing to do, given that his account was overdrawn by his thieving brother, was to transfer the $50 out of my account to his.  Then the bank proceeded to take care of what needed to be done.

After all that, we get back home, my neighbor has all the new account information still in his hands, and who's waiting for him?????  THE THIEVING BROTHER!!!!  There went my $50 straight into this THIEF'S hands!!!!!    AARRRRGGGGGHHHHHHH!!!!!!!

!@##$#%%#!@#$!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Being a retiree myself, I can't afford to support a THIEF!!!!!

DAMMIT!!!!!!!   

[Gaining Strength]

Bones, my heart just aches for the horrible state your neighbor is in.  But my hat is off to you for helping him out.  I think you have done something of value.  For now the brother's name is not on the account and that will protect your neighbor unless he allows his brother to sign into the account.

You did the right thing.

[BonesMS]

Bones, my heart just aches for the horrible state your neighbor is in.  But my hat is off to you for helping him out.  I think you have done something of value.  For now the brother's name is not on the account and that will protect your neighbor unless he allows his brother to sign into the account.

You did the right thing.

Thanks, G.S.

What worries me is that right now, the THIEVING brother has PHYSICAL custody of my neighbor, who still had all the paperwork still in his hands when we returned from the bank...including blank checks!  We're right back at square one!

[Gaining Strength]

How awful Bones.

[BonesMS]

How awful Bones.

It is and I'm FURIOUS!!!!!

[Hopalong]

When neighbor is ready, he might consider changing his locks
(unless he's not emotionally ready to)...

I hope Adult Protective Services can become involved quickly,
or even an attorney to represent your neighbor...

Hops

[BonesMS]

When neighbor is ready, he might consider changing his locks
(unless he's not emotionally ready to)...

I hope Adult Protective Services can become involved quickly,
or even an attorney to represent your neighbor...

Hops

With his Alzheimer's, I doubt he has the ability to change the locks and resist his thieving brother.  When I contacted Adult Protective Services, they told me to call the police and the police would call Adult Protective Services.  I call the police and all we got was the bureaucratic runaround and the blow-off.  Probably, to the bureaucrats, this is just another number not a human being.

[Gaining Strength]

Wow, won't even look Into it!

If you feel up to it stay on it.  A few more calls may get them off their duff.
It is so painful to watch a person being taken advantage of in that way.

[BonesMS]

Wow, won't even look I to it!

If you feel up to it stay on it.  A few more call may get them off their duff.
It is so painful to watch a person being taken advantage of in that way.

It's INFURIATING!

[BonesMS]

http://www.slate.com/articles/life/dear_prudence/2014/07/dear_prudence_should_i_tell_people_about_my_abortion.html

[BonesMS]

I sent an e-mail to one of the police officers who I've dealt with on other occasions and told him what has been happening since this past Friday.  Turns out, he is the SUPERVISOR of the officer who blew me off.  (I didn't know that.)  This morning, I got a phone call from the officer, who blew me off, asking me to come to the station and write a Witness Statement of everything I observed yesterday.  I wrote about five pages of everything that I saw and heard and it has been given to a detective.  It appears that the police are finally taking this case seriously.

Now I wonder what will happen next?

[BonesMS]

http://www.creators.com/advice/annies-mailbox/physical-abuse-false-charges-or-different-perspectives.html

Many triggers!

[Hopalong]

I am so proud to know you, Bones.
People who are willing to stick out their necks and give voice to an old man who needs support...
well, I remember how much it meant to me when I was being abused by family, to have people
speak up for me.

GOOD for you.

love and respect,
Hops

[BonesMS]

I am so proud to know you, Bones.
People who are willing to stick out their necks and give voice to an old man who needs support...
well, I remember how much it meant to me when I was being abused by family, to have people
speak up for me.

GOOD for you.

love and respect,
Hops

Thanks, Hops.

Now the hardest part is the waiting as the police conduct their investigation.

[BonesMS]

As some of your may be aware, I've been learning how to admin a discussion group.  The other admin has gone on vacation for about a week.  Some of the behaviors I've been observing has me scratching my head in confusion.

For example, I receive a request from a newbie to join the discussion group.  The second I approve the request, I send a message to the newbie to please read the rules, pinned at the top of the page, before posting anything.  (I thought that request was crystal clear.)  The rules basically state the following:  No promoting stuff and No selling stuff.  It is clearly explained, from the outset, that the discussion group's purpose is to talk about the writing/creative process of science fiction and fantasy.

Keeping that in mind, one newbie violated all the rules WITH 30 MINUTES OF BEING ADDED!  I removed the violation and sent her a private message informing her that her posting had been removed, why it had been removed, and reminded her of the rules regarding NO PROMOTIONS and NO SELLING STUFF.  She attempted to argue that she has a right to sell things on the page.  I informed her, again, that the purpose of the discussion group is to talk about the writing/creative process ... NOT to sell/promote stuff!  That's when she replies back:  "If I can't do what I want, then take my name off!"  I happily obliged her and BANNED her!

What part of the word "NO" do people NOT understand?

Another thing that the violators need to learn .... Do NOT piss off the Admin!  When the Admin has already clearly explained the rules, that doesn't translate into giving permission for flipping off the Admin and posting the violation again. 

I just got a snarky response from one of the violators who kept ignoring the rules after he had been warned.  The first violation, I removed it and sent a private message reminding him that it is not appropriate to post ads selling anything.  I advised him to contact the admins if he had any questions.  He ignored me and posted the violations back onto the page!  As a consequence, I removed the new violation and I removed him from the group.  I sent him a private message informing him that he has been removed from the group due to violating the rules regarding selling.  He sends me the following snark:  "I guess YOU don't like writers!"  (He don't know me!)  I wrote back:  "I don't like people who REFUSE to respect boundaries!"