Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?

[BonesMS]

Yesterday, I finally got the book, "The Martian Child" by David Gerrold, from the local library and read it cover to cover in one sitting.  I just could not put it down!  If you get the opportunity to read this book, DO IT!!!! 

I won't give away any spoilers other than this book is based on the experiences of the author and his adopted son and how they found each other.

[BonesMS]

http://www.creators.com/advice/at-work-lindsey-novak/the-say-it-like-it-is-dress-code-for-work.html

[BonesMS]

http://www.creators.com/advice/annies-mailbox/second-class-son.html

[BonesMS]

I sent an e-mail to one of the police officers who I've dealt with on other occasions and told him what has been happening since this past Friday.  Turns out, he is the SUPERVISOR of the officer who blew me off.  (I didn't know that.)  This morning, I got a phone call from the officer, who blew me off, asking me to come to the station and write a Witness Statement of everything I observed yesterday.  I wrote about five pages of everything that I saw and heard and it has been given to a detective.  It appears that the police are finally taking this case seriously.

Now I wonder what will happen next?

Giving a bit of an update.

It had been awhile since I reported this and I had no idea what has been going on since the report.  Last week, Wednesday morning, I received a phone call, from Adult Protective Services, asking me if I had heard anything at all or had seen my neighbor.  I had to say "No and No".  Turns out that APS had been calling the police officer, who was supposed to be investigating from his end, and he was NOT returning their calls!  Apparently, he was blowing them off just like he blew me off.  I sent a follow-up e-mail to APS with a "cc:" to the officer's supervisor regarding what has been going on or, more accurately, what has NOT been going on.

This morning, BEFORE 6:30 AM, my phone rings!  I'm wondering WHO is calling me at THAT UNGODLY HOUR?!?!?  Turns out to be the police officer who had been blowing me off!  He informs me that he has communicated with Adult Protective Services and gave them information that they have been asking for ... (I'm thinking, "Yeah, asking you since JULY!")  He tried to play "cover his ass" claiming that APS never left a message for him.  (Yeah ... right ... and I have a bridge in Brooklyn to sell you!)  Looks like my email to his boss prompted his boss to light a fire under his lead a$$!  I love it when a plan comes together!

[BonesMS]

http://www.creators.com/advice/annies-mailbox/outing-the-bully-in-law.html

[Gaining Strength]

Way to go Bones.  Your neighbor is lucky to have
 you looking out.

[BonesMS]

Way to go Bones.  Your neighbor is lucky to have
 you looking out.

Thanks, GS.

[BonesMS]

http://www.creators.com/advice/annies-mailbox/placating-mrs-petty.html

The advice columnists are REALLY stupid this time!  The LW's husband had unexpectedly DIED!  The family is in emotional chaos!  The ambulance, fire truck, coroner, etc. are also there so I'm sure the street was pretty well blocked with all of these vehicles and the petty neighbor next door is STILL holding a grudge about how SHE was inconvenienced and the advice columnists tell the LW to basically grovel to this petty neighbor and suck it up to this self-centered piece of work?!?!?!   I DON'T THINK SO!!!!

[BonesMS]

I found myself in a social situation where I couldn't help but cringe.  I was one of many students taking a drumming class for the first time and the instructor started fussing at the student sitting beside me because she wasn't watching what the rest of the class was doing and following along.  In mid-fuss, the instructor realizes, too late, that the student he is fussing at for "not watching" is TOTALLY BLIND!  (Can we say "Kanye"?) *Shaking my head*

[BonesMS]

checking in.....

[Twoapenny]

I found myself in a social situation where I couldn't help but cringe.  I was one of many students taking a drumming class for the first time and the instructor started fussing at the student sitting beside me because she wasn't watching what the rest of the class was doing and following along.  In mid-fuss, the instructor realizes, too late, that the student he is fussing at for "not watching" is TOTALLY BLIND!  (Can we say "Kanye"?) *Shaking my head*

That is cringeworthy , Bones.  I think we all, as a race, need to be more aware that there are sometimes reasons for things that aren't obvious and that we shouldn't assume anyone is lazy/can't be bothered/not interested.  I am trying very hard at the moment to talk to people, keep an open mind, not to judge.  I hadn't realised how much I judge people and make assumptions about them.  Thanks for posting this, it sort of illustrates what I've been thinking about.  I hope the student wasn't too upset by it all (and hopefully the instructor has learnt something from the experience as well!).

[BonesMS]

I found myself in a social situation where I couldn't help but cringe.  I was one of many students taking a drumming class for the first time and the instructor started fussing at the student sitting beside me because she wasn't watching what the rest of the class was doing and following along.  In mid-fuss, the instructor realizes, too late, that the student he is fussing at for "not watching" is TOTALLY BLIND!  (Can we say "Kanye"?) *Shaking my head*

That is cringeworthy , Bones.  I think we all, as a race, need to be more aware that there are sometimes reasons for things that aren't obvious and that we shouldn't assume anyone is lazy/can't be bothered/not interested.  I am trying very hard at the moment to talk to people, keep an open mind, not to judge.  I hadn't realised how much I judge people and make assumptions about them.  Thanks for posting this, it sort of illustrates what I've been thinking about.  I hope the student wasn't too upset by it all (and hopefully the instructor has learnt something from the experience as well!).

Thanks, Tupp.

Personally, I would have thought that the student wearing dark glasses, with a white cane beside her would have given the instructor a clue-by-four.  The student, and her husband, seemed to take it in stride. 

[BonesMS]

http://www.slate.com/articles/life/dear_prudence/2014/09/dear_prudence_i_don_t_drink_alcohol_but_everyone_tries_to_make_me.html

[BonesMS]

http://www.slate.com/articles/life/dear_prudence/2014/09/dear_prudence_my_boyfriend_insists_that_i_flash_my_breasts_at_truckers.html

[BonesMS]

http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby