Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?

[BonesMS]

It's been awhile since I posted and wanted to check in.

I'm trying to figure out my emotions regarding the death of a narcissist this past Friday.

Part of me feels sad for his twin brother as no one saw this death coming.

Another part of me feels relieved that this narcissist won't be driving everybody crazy anymore.

[Hopalong]

Good to hear you, Bones.

I was just reading a Carolyn Hax column about someone's ambivalent grief...imo, your mixed feelings are totally normal and nothing to judge. If you feel even other unexpected shades of feelings as you process this N's death, that's normal too.

Twins and one of them an N? Wow. Complicated for the non-N one.

Welcome back,
Hops

[lighter]

Hi, Bones:

There's nothing wrong with any feelings you have.  They're all part of you.  They all belong.

I think relief is normal and appropriate, btw.

Glad to see you back on the board.

Lighter

[BonesMS]

Good to hear you, Bones.

I was just reading a Carolyn Hax column about someone's ambivalent grief...imo, your mixed feelings are totally normal and nothing to judge. If you feel even other unexpected shades of feelings as you process this N's death, that's normal too.

Twins and one of them an N? Wow. Complicated for the non-N one.

Welcome back,
Hops

It was real complicated for the non-N twin.  I'm silently thinking:  "Dobbin is a free elf."

[BonesMS]

Hi, Bones:

There's nothing wrong with any feelings you have.  They're all part of you.  They all belong.

I think relief is normal and appropriate, btw.

Glad to see you back on the board.

Lighter

Thanks.

[BonesMS]

I'm not sure if I had mentioned his N-behaviors in previous postings.  I feel a huge sense of RELIEF that we will never be subjected to that again.

[Twoapenny]

It's good to see you, Bonesie   I think it's odd when someone difficult/abusive/uncaring or whatever they may have been passes.  I think we can sometimes care for the person but not the behaviour and that's hard to separate out.  I feel sorry for his twin, he's probably been subjected to a lot over the years.  How have you been other than that? xx

[BonesMS]

It's good to see you, Bonesie   I think it's odd when someone difficult/abusive/uncaring or whatever they may have been passes.  I think we can sometimes care for the person but not the behaviour and that's hard to separate out.  I feel sorry for his twin, he's probably been subjected to a lot over the years.  How have you been other than that? xx

I'm trying to deal with stuff one day at a time.

[lighter]

I'm not sure if I had mentioned his N-behaviors in previous postings.  I feel a huge sense of RELIEF that we will never be subjected to that again.

I didn't  assume you meant anything in particular, Bones. 

Frankly, I don't think it matters what or why we feel.

 It matters that we tend to our feelings, whatever they are, and know they belong, IME.  Without judgment.

Lighter

[BonesMS]

I'm not sure if I had mentioned his N-behaviors in previous postings.  I feel a huge sense of RELIEF that we will never be subjected to that again.

I didn't  assume you meant anything in particular, Bones. 

Frankly, I don't think it matters what or why we feel.

 It matters that we tend to our feelings, whatever they are, and know they belong, IME.  Without judgment.

Lighter

Thanks.