JADE

[towrite]

Do not Justify your actions
Do not Argue about your boundaries
Do not Defend yourself about your actions
Do not Explain what you are doing etc.

Because that is how you get sucked in.

OMG, Iphi - that's pure genius!  Wish I heard that a long time ago.

Many thanks. xoxoxo

towrite

[Iphi]

Hi towrite lovely to see you!!  XXOOXXOO

I did not invent that!  I am only sharing it. 

I'm not sure if there is any etiquette about this, but I read it in a post by Riccy103 who posts at http://thepsychopath.freeforums.org/viewforum.php?f=28&sid=bf6c17975431bb551c67fcbce72dfc09

It is a Vaknin-frequented site, although he has not posted on the 'N Fathers and Mothers' topic (yet) that I recall.  I know there is a broad spectrum of opinion about him and the forums he is involved with (can't think of a better way to put that - is he a poster or what? I dunno) so I thought I would forewarn.  The same people who run the MSN site that banned NMMG also run this site.  I still use it since it is the posters I care about, you know?

I'm busy at work today (a miracle for this place on a Friday in August) but hope to catch up this weekend.  Ami's post on shame spiral was brilliant and I have definitely visited that spiral MANY times. Also dandy's on subjugation - so that is what it is called. Wow. Much to think about!

[bean as guest]

hi towrite,

I love this  too

hugs to you

bean