Jodi Kay's Story

[Certain Hope]

I responded to this poster because I believe it is wrong to assume and presume to have facts which are only available to the individuals directly involved. When you don't know the facts, it's irresponsible, at best, to guess.

They are the only human beings who really know what's gone on between them.

Not one of the rest of us is in a position to choose sides.
Not one.

If you've never been the target of a deliberate, ongoing character assassination, then maybe you can't relate, but I know people who'd have no qualms whatsoever about taking such a case to court for settlement... Christian or not... and use alot harsher language than "spider" in attempting to make their case... for punitive damages!

I do not know the legal ramifications of what has gone on between these two over the past four years.
I do not know at what point venting becomes libelous... or if that venting is proven to contain false statements, it becomes slander.
I do not know how many unwanted contacts add up to harassment in a court of law.
 I do hope that Laura and Jodi don't have to learn the answers to these questions by hard experience.

Carolyn

[Overcomer]

Am-You struck a nerve with me.  I understand!  When I was dating Bill for three years and had finally realized he played the victim which gave him an excuse to drink.  The relationship had run its course and he was pulling me DOWN!  Just as I was breaking up with him my mom stepped in and started supporting HIM!  suddenly I was the bad one-I was being a bad girl because Bill did not want me.  I was trying to get him out of my life, our business and my parent's basement.  All of her allegiance

[Overcomer]

shifted from me to him and it is what made me feel betrayed.  That is how you feel about the dynamic here.  I wish I had a mom like you!

[Ami]

EXACTLY--Kelly. My life started on it's downward course VERY badly after my F ( and M) betrayed me when I was so,so vulnerable. My H was abusing me and our little son. I wanted SOMEONE to be on my side.
  Was I so worthless that my OWN mother and father SIDED with the abuser?The answer to me was loud and clear.---YES,YES--you have no value at all.
 "You are so worthless that even when you are being pushed  and shoved and our grandson son is being hit--- we will side with -- the abuser. THAT is how much worth you have to US.  After that I started  having stomach problems which kept on until I found the board and started getting my voice back,
 I think that Laura will go down if she  feels compelled to leave b/c of feeling humiliated..
 It is so sad when no one feels that you are even worth protecting. That is why I love Henrietta,My standard Poodle, so much. She sits next to my chair and growls when anyone comes near me.
Yes-- I am that desperate for love.                        Ami

[Overcomer]

So Jodi, with that in mind I will have to support Laura-she is like my daughter and whether she is right or wrong, she is like family to me and so I will lift her up and support her.  Amen.

[Ami]

That is my opinion--- Right or wrong. We,as abused people, rarely have people who fight for us. It means so much to have someone stand up for you.
  I very mildly 'Stood up" for someone on the board.It was such a little nothing incident  to me.
  She wrote me a PM thanking me b/c no one had ever stood up for her before.
  It really hit me how we,as victims of N's, are treated with so little value by everyone..
  I almost had an affair  with a man who came in and cared about that I was being abused. He protected me. No one ever thought that I was worth protecting. He told me to call him--day or night-- wherever I was if I was in danger.
  You know what-- my H BACKED down --BIG TIME.
 He cared about my well being and my children's well being.
  When someone protected me-- my H STOPPED. My parents should have done this-- not a stranger.
  Anyway,I am passionate about this topic b/c it is HORRIBLE not to be protected. That is how I feel
based on my life experience.                                                               Ami

[lighter]

I'm not reading most of the posts on this thread....

I just wanted to add my last 2 cents on this topic.....

only a couple people responded to the SU's posts before RM invited everyone to do so.

Once she/RM did that..... it seemed a moral imperative to respond and I don't blame you CB.... Hope anyone else who posted, including myself.

I personally wouldn't want anyone posting to the people who hurt me, if they came to the board.

I'd want them to go away and leave me in peace.... leave me in my safe place and not disturb it. 

I think it's innapropriate to respond interlopers..... and that's all I have to say about that.