From One of the People Asking For a Safe Spot on the Board

[gratitude28]

I still disagree. The moderator wouldn't read our private messages. This is like my myspace. If I don't know the person, I don't read the mail. If I get something like this here, I know it is someone who still has issues.

[Overcomer]

You are joking, right???  That cannot possibly be a true PM.  If it is and you know who it is, I just cannot believe it.  Unless that person knows something we do not know...

Wow!!  I personally have never had an ugly PM.  Every single time it has been something like, "boy we have a lot in common...."  or "thanks for making me feel so good..."

I have always felt that shining a light on ugliness is the only way to get rid of it...........otherise it becomes like "the family secret."

I outed my mom long ago.   I refuse to have to abide by the dysfunctional family rules.

I still say..............if you do not like someone.................then avoid them.  Do not post in response to their post.  Post in response to the one before them or after them.  Pretend they do not exist.  You only give power to someone who pushes your button by reacting to the push.

[changing]

I don't understand- would a Moderator be involved with Private Messages as well? If not, than they would be of no use whatever in this instance. In any case, we can block any further pollutions from that unfortunate person ourselves, anyway, if they were exhibiting their limited abilities in that manner. And I would expose them to the light of day, for good measure, if they were to send suchlike to me- as a warning to my fellow villagers.

Changing

[Iphi]

Yes I don't think the moderator question is relevant to a poison pen PM.  I've been on plenty of moderated boards with PM issues, which are always kind of mysterious since the majority don't know and can't verify what the heck is going amongst whom.

[gratitude28]

Unless that person knows something we do not know...

Gee, thanks Kelly. LOL. I am secretly a werewolf. Sorry I didn't tell you before. I knew it would not be a nice message when I saw the person's name.

Changing, I have always received kind messages from the people here. This is a one-shot deal. And it proves that we cannot take to heart words of this kind. Goodness knows, we've hear enough of them in our lives. But there was a point when this would have wounded me deeply -and, to tell the truth, I most likely would have been groveling, trying to get in the person's good favor. I really used to be like that. I was so scared that someone wouldn't like me that I tried to be everything to everyone.

[JanetLG]

Gratitude,

At least, now that they have 'shown their hand' to you in a private message, you can go into your Account Profile and key in their details so that you can get any further PM's from them 'Ignored', so that you don't have to even SEE anything else from them in your personal inbox.

I think, even if we had a moderator, Private Messages aren't ever a part of a moderator's area of influence, due to the way the software is set up.


Janet

[gratitude28]

Sure, authentic. It was not she who wrote me the message.
Love, Beth

[Overcomer]

Hey Beth..............you know I was joking, right?  And Authentic....I didn't think it was you.  In fact, I have no idea who it could be.  Guess I am just dense.  I trust everyone. 

Beth, I would have done some groveling in the past, too.  I am soooooo glad I do not care anymore.  Boy, I have grown so much.  I simply do not care if someone says something nasty to me.....it is their problem!!  Thank God I am over that!!!!!

[JanetLG]

I don't trust EVERYONE, I'm afraid.

And I have a very good idea who it was.

I'd put money on it.


Janet

[changing]

Hello Authentic-

If I could somehow block NH like a deranged PM, I would adore it, actually. Unfortunately it is hardly an apt comparison , though.  NH cannot be blocked in 3d and I have to deal with the threat rationally. At any rate, apparently Moderators do not manage one's PMs. If NH were to PM, I would block him. If NH were to post, I would let the board know and ask that NH be ostracized by my fellow villagers. If not, then Moderator or no, I would not want to be wasting my time on the board with NH. Period.

Best,
Changing

[isittoolate]

hi Beth,

Just back from hospital and saw this too!! How awful!!

I hope you took it with a grain of salt so to speak and you can email Dr. G with a copy. He can block that person! He ought to be able to find his/her IP address and that is what to block so that NO mail can come from that person.

Hang in there

Love
Izzy

[gratitude28]

Thanks, Izzy!!!!!!
Was it just routine at the hospital??? How are you??? I haven't heard too much from you lately. Does this mean you are too busy flitting about enjoying things to post a lot???? I hope so.
Love, Beth

[teartracks]

Hi Beth,

Good heavens!  I go wash the dog and vacuum the floor and come back to this.  I'm glad you had the presence of mind to take it for what it is UGLY, and that you posted it here.   You are a princess, OK Queen Beth and you didn't deserve to be attacked like that.

PM's...I've seen them turned into weapons here.   

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Iz,

Is there a place where I can block PM's without going through Dr. G? 

tt

[teartracks]

Hi,

What happened to the 'Poll' thread?  What was the outcome?

tt 

[gratitude28]

Wowza, what a question. Lol. It exploded, basically... and then imploded. Amazing what happens when you vaccuum. I might try it one day myself, just to see... (the vaccuuming, that is).