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Mother's Day Messages
Michelle:
Hi Sjkravill-
--- Quote ---There is no acknowledged conflict between my mother and I... I do whatever I can to keep the peace.
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What would happen if you confronted your mother on your feelings? Does she have any idea or do you just know that it would be useless to even try? Just curious on that one.
--- Quote ---But in the end, I really feel the need to do things in my own time, in my own way. With my own independence.
I am starting to understand my voicelessness.
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I am proud of you for beginning to see your need for your own voice! Hooray! I think that was the very beginning of my eyes being opened to how I "needed" things to be for "ME"!!!!! I wish you lots of time to figure out what is best for YOU, not your mother. As we all know here, if we don't take care of ourselves, who will? Sad, but true!
Best,
Michelle
Michelle:
Hi Spirit -
--- Quote ---I did not send any message, in fact I am not in touch with my parents for about a year and I think it is a brave thing to do for me.
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I agree with you - that is a very brave thing to do - to take care of YOURSELF!!!!! It is hard to do, but essential to your emotional health!
I am sorry that your mother cannot hear your voice. Your voice is strong, kind, caring and DESERVES to be heard. I hear you, Spirit. We all do. Keep finding your voice and be proud to have it!
Michelle
Michelle:
Wildflower -
--- Quote ---And elsewhere I posted that she knew I was in trouble (teachers, school counselors, a child psychiatrist all told her I was in trouble – deeply hurt, even) but she didn't help me or find help for me.
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I am so sorry to hear that. A mother is SUPPOSED to be your caretaker, the one who is MOST concerned about you in the world. That was not the case with your mother and you did not deserve to be treated that way!
I don't know how to deal with that realization either. I handle it pretty much the same way as you do - by being angry as hell about it, then mourning over the loss of my childhood. I guess at this point in the healing process, that's all we can do.
I am proud to be here for you. I am proud of you for being stronger than your mother. I am proud of you for helping yourself to heal. Continue down this road, Wildflower. It is a long and hard one, but I know there must be something beautiful and special waiting just for you at the end!
Michelle
Michelle:
Hi Morgan - Welcome! It is great to put a name to a voice! :)
--- Quote ---I hereby propose that we inaugurate an Anti-Mothers' Day -- the purpose of it being to celebrate freedom from awful childhoods -- there could be an Anti-Fathers' Day too. I'm going off to compose some tasteful greeting cards for the occasion.
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GREAT idea! Keep us posted of your greeting cards....I'm sure they will be useful to us all! :)
Michelle
Portia:
Post deleted. I asked a question but really it's not my job or responsibility to ask. Progress.
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