Losing Patience

[Overcomer]

We have this girl at work and every day there is some drama going on with her.  If it is not one thing it is another!  It is exhausting.  Every day there is something.  I can anticipate a fight between her and someone.  That is how I am feeling about the board.  I am almost starting to dread logging on.  I think maybe we will have resolved something and then I see someone else is fighting.  Out of the mouth of Rodney King-Cant we all just get along?  I guess on that stress scale I am pretty high

[Certain Hope]

(((((((Kelly)))))))  I can relate.

Feeling really exhausted today and just looking for a safe haven.

How are you feeling otherwise? Are you on a more regular diet now?

Love,
Carolyn

[Overcomer]

Yes but I keep over eating.  Not that it is a lot but that I get too full.  Have you ever eaten a Mexican meal with lots of chips and you feel sick?  that is how I feel when I eat a regular meal!  I should be able to pace myself if I can just slow down!

[Ami]

Dear Kelly,
  When I had my stomach problems,I would eat a handful of food and get so full. It was like a gastric by-pass given by stress-lol.
  I hate that feeling. if you take digestive enzymes, HCL, or apple cider vinegar,it helps.
  I am tired of stress and drama ,too.
  Maybe,learning to cope with all this is part of healing,as well. I think that it is.     
My H was talking on the phone with a  co -worker. One of the partners is an N.( I diagnosed it) They all have big ego's. There are power plays and alliances ..
  Maybe, the goal is to walk through the mine fields simply having your own voice-- choosing who and where you will engage. Maybe, this is a  lesson of life---                       Love    Ami

[Overcomer]

Am-I have done enzymes-maybe they will help or I just need to learn moderation!  Sometimes I just need to walk away from the drama at work and maybe I will do that here, too.  Or maybe avoid got topic threads and lean toward less threatening threads.  Problem is most of the people I enjoy are there.

[Ami]

Where - at work or on the threads.?

[Certain Hope]

Kelly,

This might sound kinda silly, but can you try using a smaller sized plate or bowl?
That might help you to moderate your portion sizes for now... at least until you get more accustomed to what your new tummy can manage.

I'm with you on walking away from the drama.
If you start threads about topics you enjoy and are interested in, I'm sure that the folks you enjoy would meet you there.
Hope you rest well tonight.

Love,
Carolyn

[Overcomer]

I meant on the threads-but I enjoy the people at work for the most part.  And as far as plate size?  Good idea.  If I do not learn before my first fill I will be in a world of hurt!  I have heard a lot of people say it comes right back up!

[isittoolate]

HI OC

I was meaning to post and ask you about your operation/eating, but it sounds just 'not quite right' for you? Are you in any pain?

I am a person who ignores the disagreements and sometimes miss 2-3 days and hope it's over. The arguments are stressful and totally a waste of time & space. I would not take sides, unless it was truly obvious that I ought to, because of my beliefs.

My only suggestion/whatever is like I am right now. In a wheelchair/ a broken leg/cannot get into my own car to go to the grocery store/ have only one st*** and one ch** left and have been eating sparingly until I could find an idea.

Well, lawsah me! I drive to one store because it is cheaper than the one just down the street. I've always ignored the latter because of its prices until I'd forgotten I can buy f*** there. I am on my last bottle of water.

So come live with me and you won't get much to eat!!! and I can put you to work, making my bed and doing laundry and other things that you will forget about f***, as I do. It's 7:59 and all I've had today is 2 cups of coffee in the a.m. I will no mention the F*** word until you give me the go ahead!

Take good care, and take these horrible dramas on Board with a grain of s***!

Love Izzy

[Bella_French]

Dear Kelly,

Hugs to you. My partner and I both find it hard not to `internalize' drama, so i can understand how you feel. I expect that the `deeper' wound being triggered is related to somehow feeling the drama is our fault, even if we `know' it is not. In any case, I know it can be painful being around drama, for sensitive people especially.

I agree that it would be wise to protect yourself from stress as much as possible while you are dealing with changing your eating patterns. It takes a lot of concentration, I know:) A little trick I used to use in my pre-smoking days was to keep some `no sugar' mints around, and when i felt i was over-eating for the fun of it, I'd pop one into my mouth. Or I'd sometimes clean my teeth, to trigger myself into thinking my meal was finished. The other thing that helped was to excercise; it kind of put me in tune with my feelings of hunger and satiation.

Good luck with this overcomer. Please look after yourself; your healing is so very important.

X bella

[changing]

Hello Overcomer-

I am sorry that you are having tummy difficulties, and hope that things resolve soon. Your body will adjust, little by little- just be good to yourself OC!
As for the drama on the board and at work, you must remember that some pathologies require more serious attention by 3d professionals, and no amount of caring and support can properly treat them fully. The next time some sort of power-play, guilt-trip or other seemingly juvenile attention seeking drama develops here, I intend to discreetly absent myself . Sometimes providing an opportunity and medium for diverting attention from a compelling need for serious treatment does a great deal of harm to the suffering person, in that their attention is diverted from the real need for treatment and their problem escalates, and I think that this board should limit actions to advice and support- we cannot attempt to practice or replace psychiatry.

Izzy- I am concerned about the impediments that you face getting proper nutrition. Are there places near the medical office where you can pick up some things? Do you have grocery delivery or Pink Dot in your area, or a Meals on Wheels type of system? I am so sorry- will add that to the prayer list.

Love ,

Changing

[Overcomer]

Iz And Changing-It is not that it is not working, it is because I fall into old patterns of eating too fast.  No it is working but I just need to know that a Lean Cuisine is just enough.

[Overcomer]

Bella-Thanks for the kind words.  My H is so intense and it gives me a tummy ache.  I think all this drama is going to my gut and I just need to have peace so I can heal and move!  Plus maybe I stress eat and then be miserable.

[Overcomer]

Changing-I agree.  Some people need more than a board like this can offer and some people just thrive on chaos!  And Iz?  I do NOT want to clean but I would drive to the store with a grocery list so you could have some nourishment!

[Ami]

Dear Kelly,
 I think the thing with food is that we use it for "emotional" nurturing when actually it is only a physical process. I see that with myself. Food is much more than fuel to my body. That is how I get in trouble.
It is like trying to use a hammer when you need a wrench.It won't do the job.             Love   Ami