Embarrassment/Adding to Dawning's Subject

[gratitude28]

Dawning,
You brought up great points and I was thinking of something along those lines this week.
We all have things we are "embarrassed" about at times. When I realized I was an alcoholic and could no longer drink, I was so afraid someone would find out. Of course, they had seen me drunk. But my warped mind was scared of them seeing me sober!!! I used to be so embarrassed about being an alcoholic. But it just means my body deals with alcohol differently than others and I cannot tolerate it.
Some here have BPD. Some have other disabilities or illnesses. How do you react to others having these disabilities or sicknesses? How do you react to your own personal setbacks? I think this is very important.
Are you more embarrassed of yourself or others? Why do you still have these emotions? If you do, there is something that you have not yet brought to the surface and examined.
Thanks for listening.
Love, Beth

[Ami]

Great topic. I need to think on it. I know that I have many things to contribute(lol)   Ami

[isittoolate]

One thing that is likely embarrassing for all, is admitting to being in anti-depressants, because most people know that affects one's libido.
It might be the same with High Blood Pressure? medication?
I am embarrassed to say I smoke , since I am 68 and have smoked for 51 years! Who wants to come here ands smell smoke.? Most people don't know as I smoke only at home and only 6 cigs a day, but I smoke. It is me!
That I play a lot of computer games and enjoy them, at 68? So I say Mai-Jong and it sounds good, and that is the main one.
I am in a wheelchair, but so far I have handled it well, but I would be very upset if someone called me a 'cripple'. That word is passé and handicapped refers to people!

I likely have more but good topic

love
izzy

[Lupita]

Dear Grat, I live my life embarrassed. Even if I did nothing wrong, I always think that I did something bad. And that I am going to get in trouble. It has been improving, but I had some flash backs lately. Probably due to that guy I met at my dance class.

[Ami]

I have always felt embarrassed about having any other feeling but '"nice". That would include anger, fear,joy  hope, expectation etc. I think that this would be called shame---BLEH            Ami

[Iphi]

I have huge, enormous shame around education and job and around all sorts of intellectual subjects.  Even writing that I feel like it is stupid to be so shameful about these things.  I wish someone else knew about this and could help me.

[Ami]

Explain more.Iphi,  if you could                           Ami

[Iphi]

I'll try to add more on the weekend - it will take me a while to get it together.

[Bella_French]

Dear gratitude,

I think what that person said to you in the PM, and the way they used the term `alcoholic' like it was dirty word, was very rude. I don't think you have anything to be ashamed about, even if you were still drinking. Addiction is a symptom of pain; its not who a person is.

Anyway congratulations on quitting! That is such a  good accomplishment.

X bella

[Dawning]

Hi, Dawning here.  Taking a break from packing. 

Just want to say that I am reading this thread and will reply but it might not be until after Oct. 1st, once I get an Internet connection set up in the new place.  Maybe I will have a chance before then but - as of two days ago - the momentum, responsibilities, etc  have grown considerably and I have to give my energy to that as a first priority.

Will be back soon.
Love,
Dawning