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axa

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Things to do before I die Part 2
« on: September 24, 2007, 10:34:13 PM »
Having completed part I here goes with Part 2.

Find a gym with a climbing wall and climb it (scared of heights)

Dance

Join a drawing class

Take a risk, no matter how small once a week

Exercise regularily - four times per week

Eat live food - lots of salads

Acknowledge my shadow

Meditate regularily - 5 mins a day

Each night acknowledge what I am grateful for

Photograph this year

Be aware of my need to rescue and how it sabotages me

Have a winter picnic

Learn the words of a song

Listen

Love others with respect to myself

How is that for a start?  Anyone else thinking of making a list?


Axa

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Re: Things to do before I die Part 2
« Reply #1 on: September 24, 2007, 11:37:14 PM »
Character, which has nothing to do with intellect or skill, can evolve only by increasing our capacity to love, and to become lovable. - Joan Grant

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Re: Things to do before I die Part 2
« Reply #2 on: September 25, 2007, 04:20:35 AM »
Iphi

You started my day with an out loud belly laugh................ mmmmmmmmmmmmhhhhhhhhhhh maybe I should add being taut and able to do handstands


thanks

axa

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Re: Things to do before I die Part 2
« Reply #3 on: September 25, 2007, 08:36:20 AM »
FINALLY, ONE  FREAKIN' DAY------ TO GET MY CORE                          Ami
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No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.        Eleanor Roosevelt

Most of our problems come from losing contact with our instincts,with the age old wisdom stored within us.
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Re: Things to do before I die Part 2
« Reply #4 on: September 25, 2007, 10:23:47 AM »
Glad you enjoyed that axa!  I was asking myself what I want to do before I die and, really, I seriously want to do that yoga pose.  :D  It's really hard.  There are others I want to do, but that one (upward one legged wheel pose) is numero uno.  It's a funny thing to want, but there it is.  I'm nowhere near doing it at the moment, but I like having a long term goal.   8)

I never had goals when I was under the paw of the N, or even thereafter.  Nor any desires or ambitions either.  Too selfish.  Too unsafe.  My interests were targets of derision and abuse and he managed to despoil a number of them.

Here are other things I want to do:

kayak

make nutritious and delicious food for my family (is it hormones that makes me want to do this?  is this the effect of estrogen??)

listen to my son and encourage him in developing himself

cheer at his endeavors

[many more parenting related items but those are the top]

write (a) book(...s?)

Be a DJ again

ski at various places (Tahoe, Vail, Alta, Jackson Hole...)

Go to grad school

Speak in front of a crowd

be on my HOA board

try out a different hair color    :lol:

teach yoga

go on those yoga vacations (some day down the road when family is older)

learn some degree of Spanish and also Mandarin

take a class in classical Indian dance

Hmm suddenly I feel really embarrassed about this list and almost deleted it.  So it's time to quit and post it quick.
Character, which has nothing to do with intellect or skill, can evolve only by increasing our capacity to love, and to become lovable. - Joan Grant

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Re: Things to do before I die Part 2
« Reply #5 on: September 25, 2007, 10:26:28 AM »
Dear Iphi,
 It is hard to show who we are. I was  thinking of deleting mine-but I am forcing myself not b/c it is my voice                                                       Ami
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.        Eleanor Roosevelt

Most of our problems come from losing contact with our instincts,with the age old wisdom stored within us.
   Carl Jung

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Re: Things to do before I die Part 2
« Reply #6 on: September 25, 2007, 10:50:46 AM »
When I was in therapy the T used to ask me off the cuff what I was good at, or what I liked about myself, or what my strengths were.  It was pathetic - I never had an answer.  Couldn't even think of one thing I could feel okay about.  Thoroughly squashed.
Character, which has nothing to do with intellect or skill, can evolve only by increasing our capacity to love, and to become lovable. - Joan Grant

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Re: Things to do before I die Part 2
« Reply #7 on: September 25, 2007, 04:30:18 PM »
Just lost my post........ here goes again

CB

My Part 1 consisted of these things.  I do not have the list to hand but this is it more or less

Go to India - I did, the most amazing expererience I feel I could travel anywhere now

Take part in a half marathon - and yes this couch potato did it

Climb a mountain - with great difficulty I achieved it

Start a course - well here I am

Have a big dinner party - cooked for 12 people, it was great

Keep away from Ns - so far so good

Practise awareness - work in progress

Be still - work in progress

Stop smoking

Cannot remember the rest but yep ticked off everything on my list

Iphi,

loved your list and go for it with that yoga pose.

The reason I posted my initial list was because having survived XN I wanted to see what it was like to feel alive again and I do.  For those of you who are in the throes of Nabuse or who have just left an N I want to say there is life after Ns.  I know it may not feel like it but there is.  I think XN sucked so much of the life out of me that I wanted to live so badly, to experience healthy excitement and joy, to achieve, to know I was not a failure, to shrug off his shame which I carried and be ME.  Making my first list is a reminder to me that I am able to make a life for myself and feel good without being in a relationship.  I did not know this was possible.

Love,

axa

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Re: Things to do before I die Part 2
« Reply #8 on: September 25, 2007, 06:02:15 PM »
Oh oh oh! Axa!

I can't wait to come back and read every post and list my own!

Great thread, lol!

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Re: Things to do before I die Part 2
« Reply #9 on: September 25, 2007, 06:02:38 PM »
Wow, you're amazing Axa. I'm so impressed with your list and your accomplishments-well done!

Iphi, lol, I thought that when you posted that pic of the Taught Yoga guy, you meant that you wanted to `do him' before you die, lol.

X Bella


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Re: Things to do before I die Part 2
« Reply #10 on: September 25, 2007, 06:07:05 PM »
BElla,

Will you pay for the new laptop that I just have spat coffee all over LOL VERY VERY LOUD


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Re: Things to do before I die Part 2
« Reply #11 on: September 25, 2007, 10:59:31 PM »
Oh No, AXa! I hope you're joking, lol.


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Re: Things to do before I die Part 2
« Reply #12 on: September 26, 2007, 05:24:23 AM »
Wow, Axa.... can I just borrow your list, lol?

I want lots of the same things for myself.