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What to do, what to do?????
write:
if you've decided there is to be no relationship, then ignore the email or reply with a firm no.
Remember- it's your life, they're your children, and you carry no responsibility towards an abusive mother.
If you do want to see her do it on neutral ground at a childrens' play place, maybe with the company of an understanding friend or your partner.
As someone said, acceptance is paramount- but accept your own ambivalence about it too.
write:
this link is food for thought on that
http://www.rational.org.nz/public/BeliefsQuestionnaire/bel12.htm
Dawning:
Hi Learning.
Great advice from everyone.
--- Quote ---Crap, the tightness in my chest is returning.
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With self-awareness comes this: feelings do not lie. Trust your feelings. Has anyone else had a rough time of it getting in touch with your physical feelings, say, of dread? I think I got used to mine for a long time - having been taught in childhood that they weren't important. Over the past several months, I am letting them come up and recognizing that they are clues to what is really going on with my thinking about something. I base more of my decisions these days on what my body is telling me. I think intuition and feelings are linked in a really important way. A realization for me.
Can't add anything else. Don't worry about sharing your craziness. You don't sound crazy to me. I completely understand.
flanked:
I am new here and I have been up all night trying to find some answers to a current cache of problems involving more than one "N," a divorce and a child custody battle. I have read several posts from you guys and I speak your language so well, I am spooked. I am going to begin expressing my current crisis under a new topic and I would like for you to all read it and give me some feedback. PLEASE.
I will probably title it with the word "N- Divorce/Custody Battle" ...so look for it...and please forgive my spelling errors.
Thanks!
Screamer:
--- Quote from: Michelle ---Hi Learning!
We never give up hope do we? I went round and round with this at my counseling session yesterday. She said the key to my freedom will be when I stop "admitting" the problems that my mom has and start "accepting" them as fact. I
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Michelle,
Your statement really hit home with me. I do the same thing... the slightest little bit of kindness, and I think.... "maybe this can work." Of course, it is just another trap.
Still we never give up hope. When I truly accept the reality of the situation, and stop floundering, I think I will find some level of peace. The closer I get to it the more peaceful I feel.
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