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Anonymous:
Hi Mighty Mouse --

My mother likes nothing better than sitting around talking about herself and other people, saying things about them she will never say to their face.  I used to participate until I realized that it was all about making those doing the talking feel good about themselves by sharing the discussion of someone else's problems -- a version of "we're okay, they're not okay". It's also a neat way to avoid confronting the issues that exist between the people actually present in the room -- so much more comfortable to talk about how someone else's life is screwed up.

She has also used various people in the family to try to manipulate others to get her way. I won't do it any more, and she has pretty much stopped trying to use me that way.

Morgan

mighty mouse:
Morgan,

Oh my Gosh...maybe we have the same NMom!!!! My Mom is so good at this....our family is the greatest and everybody else is crapola.

I too can see how my Mom has used me in this way through the years and now it kind of makes me sad. But like you, I won't let it happen anymore. I actually told my sister that she was being used and to quit pandering to my Mom, but alas, Sis has full blown NPD so it fell on deaf ears. Man, I'm glad I live 2,000 miles aways from that lot.

And Jaded,

I WILL get down with my bad self!!!!LOL thank you VERY much!

MM

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