i do know you, trust you or your "advice" and you will not win any sort of 'ear" with someone you start out by ACCUSING AND CONDEMNING. I don't know your N mother but I sure hope you never did to her what my Ndaughter has been doing to me.
I forgive you but you haven't even quoted anything CLOSE to what my ND would have responded or said to me. You have no clue.
I do not know you or your daughter.
All I have to go by is HOW YOU PRESENT YOURSELF in your post, and when i read through all of your posts, you came across sounding just like a N-mother:
She did NOT tell me that HIS FRIGGEN MOTHER WAS GOING!
Anna was MY daughter, not her boyfriend's mother's daughter- CLASSIC N: Thinking they are superior to other people and deserve special treatment. Again, WHO CARES? Just because you are your daughters mother does not mean you are MORE SPECIAL or deserve special treatment!!!
Why would you speak this way about your daughters future MIL?
This woman is the baby's grandmother too! What right do you have to cuss and swear about her? Are you jealous that she was there and you were not?
Why would your daughter want her MIL and not you there? Maybe because she knows how antagonistic you are towards her boyfriends mother?
i'm being honest...I wanted to physically HURT HER...I mean I wanted to throw something at her head and hurt her BADLY! You say you are not a Narcissistic mother, and yet
you want to PHYSICALLY HURT YOUR PREGNANT DAUGHTER??!!
That is sick. Even if you would not do it, just the THOUGHT is sick and disgusting. You should be ashamed of wanting to harm that poor baby in any way. Do you not see something terriblly wrong with your reaction to a simple sonogram? To want to hit a pregnant woman??? Abusers do this all of the time.
I was going to leave RIGHT NOW if he didn't get his butt back here and MAKE HER RESPECT me!So, you did not get your way and now you were going to show everybody by stomping your feet and leaving? A classic N hystrionic temper tantrum.
MAKE her respect you??? Excuse me but respect is EARNED. You do not automatically get it just because you have the title of mother.
I was the one who cleaned up her vomit, took her to the doctor the other day and kept her company, went to her school viola recitals (which she claims I never did), was there for her when the boy she had a crush on went to Iraq [/color]
Another classic N trait - Keeping a mental rolladex of every little thing you did for her, but that she did not do for you. What? Does she OWE you something (like a bill?) You fed your daughter, clothed her, went to her recitals, cleaned up her vomit.
THAT WAS YOUR JOB. You are like a waitress who demands a tip for bringing food to the customer. Your daughter didn't ask to be born. Your job was to mother her and you did.....but to now hold it over her head like a martyr....DEMANDING she pay you back...stomping your feet for respect.... sorry. You will not get my sympathy.
for 2 weeks, ANNA DOES NOT EXIST! YOU DO NOT TALK TO HER, DO ANYTHING FOR HER, ACKNOWLEDGE HER!
why the he** would I CARE about the so called damage I'm doing............. She's already planning to ruin this child and pit it against me. Why SHOULD I care?
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So this JUSTIFIES YOU behaving like a horses a$$ and kicking your pregnant daughter out on the street? This justfies you screaming at her, raising her blood pressure, putting her under enormous stress in her delicate condition? You admit with your own words you don't even CARE about the damage it does to your grandchild.
Shame on you!Again, you sound like a typical N. Where is your compassion? Where is your empathy?? Your daughter is P-R-E-G-N-A-N-T for goodness sake! I have never heard of a normal mother try to punish her pregnant daughter this way. Sick. sick. sick.