Interesting Article about Parent/Child Relationships

[tayana]

I should be doing something constructive with my time, like writing, instead I'm building a PC, scheduling patch updates and surfing the internet.  But I found this interesting article and wanted to share.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/dr-joshua-coleman/strangers-at-the-table-t_b_73630.html

Of course, this article assumes that we have parents who are willing to accept they were at fault, not N parents.

[Leah]

Tayana,

Yet another brilliant find!  Absolutely brilliant article.

Re: building a PC   --   that's what I have done, and maintain PC myself.

Which creates raised eyebrows sometimes!  Makes me laugh really.

Leah

[tayana]

Leah, for the longest time when I told people I worked with computers, they thought I did data entry.  Not taking the box apart and putting it back together.  The first time I got sent to a class, there was a handful of women there.  All of the men thought they knew everything.  I thought it really amusing when half of them messed up the box they were building.

Good for you.  It's always fun to be able to do something that scares most people to death.

[Leah]

Tayana,

Likewise, mistaken 'data entry' 

Work with computers etc., and few years ago, was the only women on a course, just quietly got on with it, then sat quietly with my machine running and went on-line, embarrassed because two were at the stage of 'steam out of ears' and PC Rage!! 

The guy gave me my certificate and said "haven't you done well !!"   While driving home, just laughed at the situation.

When I got into the office my boss refused to look at my certificate!!  Needless to say, moved on from that company eventually.

It's a wonderful life -- if you just don't let 'em win 

Love, Leah

[Leah]

Extract from the article that jumped out at me ....

.........  Yet sometimes, the worst possible betrayals can be healed. In my experience of working with families who are trying to reconcile, the best outcomes occur when adult children are able to talk about their experience in the family and the parents are willing to admit to the possibility that they may have caused harm.


If only!!

Leah