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mighty mouse:
Hi Les(s),

I'm glad you found some strength from all of us to help "gird" you against the mighty vortex of NMom. She must be a real piece of work! Yikes.

So....less pain, less angst this go-round? Seems Less really is working as a name for you my Canadian friend.

MM

bunny:
Tokyojim,

Unfortunately there is a myth that N's improve with age and mellow out. Actually many of them get worse with age: crankier, more demanding, and even less inhibited in their bad behavior. Sorry.

bunny

Tokyojim:
Bunny,

No need to say, "sorry."  I need the reminder.

I have to thank this board also.  It has given me good perspective.  With an occasional reminder, I can now keep a distance.  In addition, I also listen to the infrequent contact through my now well-established filter.  Instead of listening with logic, empathy and hope, I now look at virtually all of his utterances as what they really are: Projections, fantasies and attempts to establish superiority; all this for the N supply.

mighty mouse:
Hey Les(s),

So will you be seeing your perfect baby Mom this Thursday as well?

I'd like to hear about your visit. You should keep track of all the bad behaviour so you can write "Mothers Behaving Badly".....a cutting edge comedy about NMoms and the kids who parent them.

MM

Anonymous:
Hi MM _Rats! I was having fun with your idea here and then deleted it somehow. Can't  find it. Where do these things go I wonder. Anyway I'll start again. Thank you for your encouragement.  It took some chutzpah to get out here and it's all too easy and familiar to just be silent again.

A comedy or perhaps a horror film that would make David Cronenberg whimper. There certainly is enough material!

CLose up: sweet older woman(me!) gazing sadly at her journal. "A few years ago" she says, "I bought a beautiful journal so I could write about my spiritual journey. [cut to gardens with dappled light, gossamer butterflies,  light green and gold shading, the haunting call of a loon]  After one beautifully written paragraph the light began to change. I glanced down at my journal and to my horror there were splotches of black and red all over the page!" [cue: punk/industrial music, screaming, moaning, wretching, head banging]  The page was full of angry, raging, blood-filled words. And so began "THE Mother Monologues -notebooks full of dark exhausting confusion. (true story)
 
The confusion has lifted. All those years of writing and I didn't understand what really was going on. NOW I GET it and it is so LIBERATING to be able to NAME the problem. And believe that she IS the problem, not me.

Shopping with mother could be so much more bareable if I saw it as  "material." Yes, yes mother telll me more about the woman who stopped you in the street and told you that you were the most beautiful, lovely woman she has ever seen (the abridged version - this story goes on and on) And she wanted to kiss you? blah blah blah (not making this up here!) Working Title -Episode 1: Two nut cases run into each other.
Episode 2:  -Perfect Mother and "Fungus Brain" (newly named, charming isn't it) Go SHopping. Episode 3: based on the true story of the World's Wittiest Woman - in which she goes to the dentist and brings untold joy and happiness to all the staff and patients.  Highlight: Dentist exclaims that he soooo looks forward to her visits and simply can't wait to see her again

Episode 4: based on last week's shopping trip.  The Star of the show and we all know who that is, says: " It would be boring if I was kind and mild."  Don't you prefer, "The Interesting Me."  Fungus brain meekly says: "Not Really." Stay tuned folks, they'll be hell to pay for that comment but
there is no turning back!!!
!

So MM,  got a few short stories up your sleeve?

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