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betr4

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Shut Down
« on: November 24, 2007, 07:50:25 PM »
I think I just became aware that my feelings were shut down because I have been trying to live with the n in my life and thinking it was not effecting me.  I shut everyone out because my feelings were gone for them and I thought I was okay.
It is a trap that I did not know until today.  That living with a n I became like the n and he used it against me with my family.
Having feelings again, I am sad about missing everyone.
I hope I can keep him away from me so I can be myself.
I want to love and be loved.
BR
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Ami

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Re: Shut Down
« Reply #1 on: November 24, 2007, 08:18:09 PM »
Dear Betr4,
  I am having a hard time understanding what you mean. Maybe,it is only me. If you care to clarify ,I would like to respond.. Thanks   Ami
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isittoolate

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Re: Shut Down
« Reply #2 on: November 24, 2007, 08:25:30 PM »
(((((((((((Betr4)))))))))))))

That shut down 'feeling' sounds very much like what happened to me, and it began when I was a little girl.

Strict parents, no guidance, taunting siblings and not knowing how to stick up for myself--imagine!

--and I shut people out, became a loner.

I am 68 and just learnimg to be assertive

Izzy

EDIT] I see you have another thread and are saying the same thing.

I haven't cried since 1993. I am so shut off from family, daughter, grandchildren and the only way for me to survive is to put them in a NC mode
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lighter

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Re: Shut Down
« Reply #3 on: December 08, 2007, 09:56:21 AM »
Sorry you feel sad about that.

I wish you could surround yourself with safe people, exclude the N and go on about discovering you again. 

Sharing yourself.

Enjoying that. 

Not worrying about it or what you've lost.

If you want to love and be loved.... you'll make that happen.

There's a saying....."We are where we want to be." 

Invest yourself in getting what you want...... you can change your reality.    

 

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Re: Shut Down
« Reply #4 on: December 08, 2007, 10:15:54 AM »
Betr4-

That painful feeling is the vitality and authenticity of your spirit flowing back- like the pins and needles one feels when circulation has been cut off. It seems unbearable- but it will pass!Your equilibrium and health are being restored, and the healing process has started. Now you can shed the dead skin masks that you have had to wear, emerge anew and as you say, "Be yourself" in your own sparkly epidermis!

Love,

Changing

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gladtobealive

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Re: Shut Down
« Reply #5 on: December 08, 2007, 10:54:36 AM »
Quote from: betr4 on November 24, 2007, 07:50:25 PM
I think I just became aware that my feelings were shut down because I have been trying to live with the n in my life and thinking it was not effecting me.  I shut everyone out because my feelings were gone for them and I thought I was okay.
It is a trap that I did not know until today.  That living with a n I became like the n and he used it against me with my family.
Having feelings again, I am sad about missing everyone.
I hope I can keep him away from me so I can be myself.
I want to love and be loved.
BR
Hello betr4,
Thanks for posting this.
I am also more myself
more alive, when I am not
with narcissists, who I see as
emotional vampires
who often dont even know
they are hogging all the energy.

glad
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