all last night

[towrite]

I thought about this. Don't you think it's fascinating - or terrible - that N's are the only diseased mind that cannot or will not or does not self-identify? I mean, a schizophrenic can tell you he hears voices; a depressive can tell you she feels down; a psychotic will respond to a reality that isn't there; a sociopath will tell you she doesn't care. But an N is just fine, justified, nice and neat in "normalcy". The only exception I can think of is the bipolar who loves her highs so much she doesn't admit it's a sickness.

Just something that was running thru my mind all night.

[Leah]

Hello (( ToWrite ))

Been wondering about you, and how your interviews went.

WOW 

Inspirational and Insightful is an understatement.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

Astute indeed.

Sincerely hope all is well with you.

Love, Leah.

[towrite]

Hey Leah, thanks for your reply. I'm treading water at the moment. Have had 2 interviews and go for a third on Wed. (All different jobs.) At least it's hope. Thanks again for thinking of me.

[Leah]

pleasure, ToWrite,

and will keep you in my prayers regarding your interview on Wednesday.

We are of similiar age I believe so I do truly understand.

Genuinely hoping for you.

Love, Leah

[teartracks]

Hi everyone,

This site is an easy read.  It's about self awareness. 

http://www.selfcreation.com/creation/index.htm

This was lifted from it. 

I remember a story I heard about a father and his son. The father wanted to get some paperwork done before he took his son to the park. To keep his son occupied until he finished his work, he tore a picture of the world out of a magazine, and then tore it into little pieces. He told his son when he had finished putting the puzzle together, they would go to the park. Expecting this to take his son quite some time to accomplish, he was surprised when his son returned shortly thereafter with the completed puzzle. The father asked his son, “how were you able to finish the puzzle so quickly?” His son answered him saying “there’s a picture of a man on the other side, and when I put the man together, the pieces of the world just fell into place.”

tt

[Hopalong]

ToWrite,
What a wonderful insight.
"Nothing's wrong with meee" is good in the sense of basic self-acceptance (Amber), but not good in the sense of "Normal is what I am, of course." Particularly when they use the word often. It's like a fear-word.

NORMAL is the dullest word in the world. I've never ever met anyone normal. I've met people who think they are normal. Who take refuge in the word Normal. Or, who value simplicity and stability and use "normal" as a word of celebration. More variations.

But for me, it's a bludgeon word.

(Guess you can tell I learned early on that as far as crowd-think goes, I've never been normal.) 

Hops

[Leah]

Dear Hops,

For a long time I was most adverse to the word NORMAL   

Today, I have used the word 'normal' in one of my postings on a thread.

At first, I was reluctant, and hesitated, but then I remembered what a lovely wise dear old lady recently spoke to me about 'normal'

She explained that normal is merely a word, an adjective, to express what is;

standard - average - usual - regular - ordinary - typical


in relation to any given person, situation or circumstance.


Kind of changed my view on 'normal' 

So I am happy now to use this much maligned 'normal' word!   


Sincerely,

Love, Leah

[Leah]

Hi everyone,

This site is an easy read.  It's about self awareness. 

http://www.selfcreation.com/creation/index.htm

This was lifted from it. 

I remember a story I heard about a father and his son. The father wanted to get some paperwork done before he took his son to the park. To keep his son occupied until he finished his work, he tore a picture of the world out of a magazine, and then tore it into little pieces. He told his son when he had finished putting the puzzle together, they would go to the park. Expecting this to take his son quite some time to accomplish, he was surprised when his son returned shortly thereafter with the completed puzzle. The father asked his son, “how were you able to finish the puzzle so quickly?” His son answered him saying “there’s a picture of a man on the other side, and when I put the man together, the pieces of the world just fell into place.”

tt

WOW tt

Absolutely love the above Self Awareness illustration.

Thanks ever so much for sharing this.

I am off to read the site information with avid interest.

Love, Leah

[Leah]

Absolutely breathtakingly Affirmative and Validating          Love, Leah


Taking Ownership

You can not create yourself and your life anew without taking personal responsibility for who and where you are right now.

I do not mean responsibility in a sense of blame or judgment, but responsibility so far as ownership and control.

“This life is yours. Take the power to control your own life. No one else can do it for you. Take the power to make your life happy.”
- Susan Polis Schutz

For many, it is a major paradigm shift when they begin to see themselves and everything in their lives as a direct result of themselves.

The idea that we alone create who we are can be overwhelming, particularly if you associate that responsibility with guilt, blame or shame.

Taking ownership isn't about judging your life, but simply seeing what's there and knowing your part in it all.

This is not about finding fault, making judgments of right or wrong, good or bad, but simply one of ownership.

Yes, other people and events do have influence on our lives, but it is us, and us alone who determine which influences to emphasis, what meaning we give to those influences, and what beliefs we'll create based on those influences.

You are responsible for your beliefs.

You are responsible for your thoughts.

You are responsible for your feelings.

You are responsible for your actions.



Absolutely breathtakingly Affirmative and Validating

Thanks ever so much for sharing the above site  ((( TT )))

Love, Leah

[Leah]

Dear (((( ToWrite ))))  Just to say "Thank You" for your much valued thread, sincerely, Love Leah


Absolutely breathtakingly Affirmative and Validating

Taking Ownership

So to put yourself together first.

Become clear about who you really are.

Uncover the enormous warehouse of beliefs you've acquired from other people and our culture and challenge those beliefs.

Transform your self-doubt into acceptance, your self-pity into self-actualization, your anxiety into peace,

your confusion into happiness, and your fears into love.



The first step is knowing what you want to be, do and have.

[Leah]

Humbled to have found such breathtakingly affirmative and validating substance.

Thank you, with true heartfelt sincerity, TT

And yes, it really is a site that is an easy read  (all about self awareness). 

Highly recommend the site because it is set out in such a style of simplicity.

http://www.selfcreation.com/creation/index.htm

Some website layouts made my eyes ache 

Love, Leah


Taking Ownership of Your Emotions

Claim your beliefs, feelings and actions as your own. Take back the reins of ownership, responsibility, and consequential control that comes with ownership. Let's take that outstretched finger we’ve been pointing at every one else, and turn it back towards ourselves. Not in blame, guilt or judgment, but for answers and growth.



“We who lived in concentration camps can remember the men who walked through the huts comforting others, giving away their last piece of bread. They may have been few in number, but they offer sufficient proof that everything can be taken away from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms - to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way.”

  -- Victor Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning

[Hopalong]

Even though it sounds like the ROLE is something so instinctive that it's programmed into me - like firmware - it's NOT. It's plain & simple - pavlovian conditioning - and can be undone, with self-awareness (attention) & effort (intention).

This is the kind of thinking that gets people out of bondage, imo.

Kudos on your clarity, Amber.

hugs
Hops