Setting the record straight about Ami

[reallyME]

Gonna stick my neck WAYYYYYYYYY Out on this one

Ami, I do hope the affair is no longer going on...not that it's my business, but, I can tell you that online or offline, affairs rarely end up happily.

I've said pretty much all i can think of to try and understand the situation between you and Janet, so for now, I'm finished.  It all gets boring after a whlie, to be honest.

~Laura

[JanetLG]

This is my last post on this thread.

I am not going to stay on here for the bun-fight at the end (which always seems to happen when Dr Grossman puts a time limit on when a thread will be locked by him).

Thank you so much to people who have spent time posting here. Obviously, I appreciate the posts supporting my point of view (and the many PMs I've had from people who feel too wary to post in public). I also appreciate the *caring* and *well-meant* posts of people who wanted to help Ami with her point of view.

To the people who tried to turn this thread into a vehicle for more vitriol and abuse...we've all had enough of that in our pasts, so it would be better, IMO, to grow out of that now.

Just for the record, I am NOT going to be 'taking a break from the board' (which is what people often say at this point in a thread which is about to be locked). I stand by what I posted at the very beginning. I will continue to visit the forum most days, and to post sometimes.

But whatever I do, however bluntly, I will always tell the truth, and not keep secrets for anyone.

Janet

[Ami]

I just could not let wild rumors of two weeks, me violating Janet etc "sit there' without commenting.

[Ami]

Yes  ,Janet ----and I will not be taking a break from the board ,either. As I told you before you exploded this whole crazy thing on the board-----Go in Peace                              Ami

[lighter]

lighter,

::Handing Janet more ice::

Have you got any brandy that I could put it in?


Janet

Uhhhh, yaaaaaa. 

When did Dr. G say he was gonna lock the thread?

I'm actually with Mudd.... counting the hours. 

[Certain Hope]

Dear Janet,

I don't know that I'll ever have the constitution for this sort of thing, but I want you to know again that I admire your fortitude and strength of mind. In my opinion you've approached and handled this matter in the most above-board way and with great integrity. I thank you for setting such a fine example of direct communication and for shining the light of truth on what I personally have viewed as a longstanding pattern of behavior here. I am relieved... and grateful.

It's been many months since I last said it, but... once again, you are NOT difficult!

With love,
Carolyn

[finding peace]

Dear Ami,

You said:

Gosh I cannot explain this ONE fact enough. Janet told me NOT to PM her and I stopped.That is what happened. I don't get the two week business.

It is not about you stopping PM’ing her.

Here is what I read:

She asked you to stop PM’ing her about your friend as it made her uncomfortable. 

You continued to do so, despite her asking you to stop, until she asked that all communication between the two of you stay on the public board as you could not seem to hold to her boundary. 

At that time, you told her it wasn’t acceptable and didn’t want her for a friend. 

And then went to the public board and claimed that a friend had rejected you.

Janet’s point, I believe was multi-fold:  one you could not maintain her boundary, once she drew the line in the sand firmly, you told her you didn’t want her as a friend (in other words, if she couldn’t give in to your wanting to discuss your friend – you did not want her for a friend), and then went to the board and claimed she rejected you, when in fact it was you that rejected her.

(Janet did I miss anything?)

Ami, again, I am not trying to hurt you, but it seems that you cannot or will not see what you have done.

I am so sorry.

I too am done here.

Much love to you on your journey.
Peace

[Ami]

To everybody here. I said HOW I saw it and HOW I SEE it. If YOU see it differently ---that is your right. Peace----I see it as I see it. I know you are trying to help  but it is as simple as that. I explained HOW  I see it probably 20 times by now. You can beat me(purses,umbrellas,ladies high heels) or cajole me. I see it AS I do and it is not going to change.

[tayana]

It's about 2 hours and 25 minutes now I think?  Yes?

I can't wait.

[tayana]

Izzy, it's called Histrionic Personality Disorder.  I just double-checked before I posted.

[Ami]

You guys can call me whatever you want. I am ready for this thing to be over. Maybe--if people stopped escalating-----,it would die. Escalating would be labeling s/one with a disorder--wouldn't it?

[reallyME]

finding peace stated: Janet’s point, I believe was multi-fold:  one you could not maintain her boundary, once she drew the line in the sand firmly, you told her you didn’t want her as a friend (in other words, if she couldn’t give in to your wanting to discuss your friend – you did not want her for a friend), and then went to the board and claimed she rejected you, when in fact it was you that rejected her.

Ok, and how is this different than how I summed things up?  The only thing finding peace stated differently than I did, was that she felt Ami rejected Janet, rather than them both rejecting each other.

First, AMI REJECTED JANET when Janet didn't want to discuss the affair.
Lastly, JANET TOTALLY ENDED RELATIONSHIP WITH AMI, when Ami continued to try and talk about the affair as well as having posted covertly about Janet ending the friendship with her in the end.

I understand it as much as finding peace does.  Janet, Ami, all in all, the point is, you rejected EACH OTHER in the end and neither seeks reconciliation nor forgiveness of the other.

Gotcha.  I'll be committing it to prayer

~Laura

[lighter]

I find Ami's handling of this entire subject.....

  a contentless taunt to the board.   ::nod::

[lighter]

You guys can call me whatever you want. I am ready for this thing to be over. Maybe--if people stopped escalating-----,it would die. Escalating would be labeling s/one with a disorder--wouldn't it?

You're idea of having it be over..... is being left to create the same chaos and confusion, once again. 

And without benefit of any humor, I might add: /

::looking at watch::

[Gabben]

Please dont do this.  Please. 

This isnt helpful. 

This is very hurtful.

It doesnt help the people involved. 

It hurts your witness.

Please. 

CB

You are correct CB - It is over the top. And I was wrong to post it. My apologies, I do not want to cause harm.

However, I will not back down from what I believe is the issue of deception. I do not like lies and once again it is very clear to me that there is deception here.

Lise