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shixie:
A mensch is a good person, also my goal in life.  Unfortunately, N's eat nice people alive.  Once bitten, twice shy.  One has to learn how to say no and that they have every right to do so.  Learning how to look after yourself and protect yourself is important.  Once this is learned everything falls into place.

bunny:
Hi lynn,

I'm signed on as bunny.

My older sister once told me that my life does not have any meaning because I don't have children. I thought she was wrong about that. Therefore my life has meaning. Otherwise she'd be right and she isn't.

A mensch is a man of integrity, a good person.

bunny

Portia:
Thanks for a great thread Lynn!

Bunny, you said "My older sister once told me that my life does not have any meaning because I don't have children." well I wouldn't like to be your sister's children!  :x What a thing to say, it says so much about her eh? I'm glad now I don't have children, although I still have a slight fairy tale tape telling me that it's what a woman's life is all about. What tosh. A life is to be human, as opposed to inhuman.

Anyway, sorry, rambling. Meaning in life Lynn. It's a purpose I guess. To be a better person. Not to hurt people. To help when I can. To understand more about people, myself. To die feeling I learned something. To keep being curious, asking why, why not, to dig away for answers even when it hurts, especially when it hurts. And to appreciate good food, to try not to eat or drink in that old detached way where I didn't ever really taste ... to really concentrate on and appreciate the smallest things. Getting a pair of binoculars helped a lot! - for studying the details on common birds and finding them amazing. Laughing and crying are really important. Did you ever read Douglas Adams' 'Life, the universe etc'? Very funny. Moral. Philosophical. But funny. What makes you laugh? :?:

Jaded911:
Lynn,


You ask what everyones meaning in life was?  That is a wonderful, deep thinking, self evaluating question that gave me alot of thoughts.

I came to this simple conclusion.  My meaning in life is to stride to be the best person that I can be and to be true to myself without stomping on people throughout my journey.

I am very aware of the person I am and the person I inspire to be.  I also am aware that I lost track of that person at one time in the not so distant past.  That led me into an emotional, gut wrenching turbulence that I refuse to ever experience again.

My meaning in life is to not just plug along in the life that was given to me.  My meaning is to succeed in being the best person that I can be while remaining true to myself.  Being happy within myself makes those who surround me benefit from my presence.

Yuki:

--- Quote ---How do you focus on healthy and healing things? How do you make yourself your top priority?


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I like the idea of re-parenting, where you visualize a good, healthy parent taking care of you. I use that idea, but I don't like to think of it as a parent because that has certain negatives attached to it. Instead I try to think of how I would take care of a child, the best way I could, and then I treat myself that way. (otherwise I tend to be neglectful and depriving of myself)

Also, I try to not hold back emotions whenever it's possible. If I need to cry, I do it. If something feels like it's too hard to do, I don't force it. If I feel angry and want to throw things, I find a way to do it. As much as I can, as long as it's not going to be harmful, I try to express whatever feelings or urges come up, without judging them. I've spent my entire life holding everything inside. I'm much too restrained and cautious and buttoned down for my own good. So now, I try to never say "no" to any feeling that comes up. If I get the urge to slam a door, instead of saying "no, that's childish. I don't lose control of my temper and do things like that," I go ahead and do it instead. Usually in a private way that won't disturb other people, but I do what I can to let that feeling be expressed.

I'm very focused myself and my feelings. I don't plan on this being a long-term thing, but right now I'm very intensely into my recovery. It's really the only thing that I'm doing in my life right now. That wasn't completely my choice. I was having panic attacks that prevented me from doing other things in my life. I felt like I was being held hostage by my own feelings. So I took that as a sign that my feelings needed my full attention very badly, otherwise they wouldn't be coming out in such overwhelming ways. I think the more you try to hold a feeling back, the stronger it's going to come out eventually.

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