It's funny becuase as I said before I had been in a marriage where there had been no intimacy for 10 years, so yes someone desiring me made all the difference in the world. He already knew that I could endure long periods without intimacy (it had come up in discussions). He actuall pursued me heavily calling everyday/in the name of business. I had accidentally returned a phone call when I was in the field, on my own private cell as the work one was dead, that's how he got my #. He told me once in the begining that he thought we would be friends for the next thirty years, I thought that was extremely odd. Also my son was in the movie industry and starting to make it somewhat, where N was in a fading career. He had always wanted a son, but only had two daughters. My son never took to him, he needed the spotlight too at 13 years old and in the industry so N didn't have much use for him He always tried to get close to my son, but the one thing I had enough sense to do was keep it separate. I thank God for that one.
He went from adoring my son to actually being jealous of him, it flucuated on his moods. He wanted me to take my son out of the private school he had been in since K and the final straw began when I got my son a car. He thinks he is a spoiled pampered brat. Maybe somewhat spoiled, but he is a caring, loving, and responsible son. All of this guidance was in the name of a "friend". Though he had alot of control over me, I don't think it was enough, I still did things against his will.
I think the guise of being a friend while he continued to act like a bf was the most confusing part. Everyone kept telling me "he told you he only wanted to be a friend, so what's wrong". After awhile they did see the inconsistencies in his actions, but still said HE told you you're only friends. That seemed to cover his bases pretty much. Though I know he wanted me to believe otherwise.....to string me along.
