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fiddlinblues:

--- Quote from: juliajayne ---I won't be popular for asking this...but why date a married guy?

Just wondering.

JJ
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No, I don't take offense. I've never been one to date a married guy, and I can count my sexual experiences on one hand.
We didn't start out as dating. I wasn't looking for someone to date. I just fell really hard for this guy. He was there at a vulnerable time (I was dealing with abuse at home) and he offered what seemed to be his support. It started as friendship, I thought...
He played a game of second degree rapo, in the course of a year the relationship was never consummated, though he frequently told me that it was me he loved.
He told me he felt like he was "finally home" with me. Why? I was vulnerable, he seemed so different, so intelligent, etc....I don't know....
in retrospect, I can see the things that didn't sit quite well with me at the time, the things that were actually big glaring red signals, but I couldn't place why---now I know why.

Renee

fiddlinblues:

--- Quote from: cdnwoman ---I am sorry to hear about what happened to you.  I understand how deeply it hurts when someone you cared for does a 180 degree turn.  I have been in a similar situation myself.  Even though it is a year since our break-up, I am still recovering.

This man is a major player.  I am glad that you and his current partner were able to share information.  Because now you both know how deranged he is.  The only reason this man is calling you every name in the book is because HE KNOWS he has been caught.  HE KNOWS that you can see through him.  To be found out is a very scary thing for him.  So I am not surprised that he is doing the things that he is doing.  Keep reminding yourself that you are not to blame.  Although you played a role in it, you are wiser for it now.  Take care.
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I wish I had recognized the signals at the time. He would make comments that seemed so odd....asking me if I would ever kill myself over a man, commenting that he wished something would happen to his wife....so many different things warned me to get out, and I didn't catch them, or wrote them off.

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