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Lupita

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How old are we?
« on: January 09, 2008, 07:08:00 PM »
I remember my grandmother saying “are the girls coming?”

The girls were 60, 57, and 50 yo.  Gramd mo was 81.

Now I see members yelling, probably because they are older than us. But since we do not say our ages, we do not know who is older.

I am wondering who is 40-49, who is 50-59  and who is 60 or over.

That way when somebody sounds like a mother, I would appreciate it instead of rebelling. I would say yes mom.

I am sorry if I sound like my students. They get mad if I do not sermon them and accuse me of not caring, and if I sermon them they  talk back and tell me “I am not your child” bla bla bla.

So, sorry hops.

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Re: How old are we?
« Reply #1 on: January 09, 2008, 07:12:13 PM »
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Re: How old are we?
« Reply #2 on: January 09, 2008, 07:14:29 PM »
Dear Lupita

This is a public forum and as I have just posted on a thread today, we are all searchable by chosen 'nickname' and everything we type.

AGES is a no no for wisdom, privacy (internet / identity fraud) and safety (regarding dv)

So, just to let you know so that you won't feel ignored, I refuse to post my age, or age range, on a public domain.

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Re: How old are we?
« Reply #3 on: January 09, 2008, 07:19:46 PM »
It is ok. lea. Thanks.

I am 50.

Feel shame that a baby 45 knows more than me. lol

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Re: How old are we?
« Reply #4 on: January 09, 2008, 07:27:16 PM »
Dear Lupita,

AGE is but a number and as such has no bearing on Wisdom, understanding, knowledge and enlightenment.

Just because someone is older does not make them Wiser

Just because someone is younger does not make them lacking.

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Re: How old are we?
« Reply #5 on: January 09, 2008, 07:30:29 PM »
I was just trying to be kidding.

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Re: How old are we?
« Reply #6 on: January 09, 2008, 08:01:37 PM »
Hi Lup,
I removed mine, thanks to Leah's reminder.

Let's say I'm sagging beyond middle age...

xxoo,
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« Reply #7 on: January 09, 2008, 08:08:02 PM »
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Re: How old are we?
« Reply #8 on: January 09, 2008, 08:10:42 PM »
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« Reply #9 on: January 09, 2008, 08:57:56 PM »
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Re: How old are we?
« Reply #10 on: January 09, 2008, 09:01:34 PM »
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When they are older and telling their own children about their grandmother, they will be able to say that she stood in the storm, and when the wind did not blow her way -- and it surely has not -- she adjusted her sails.  Elizabeth Edwards 2010

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Re: How old are we?
« Reply #11 on: January 10, 2008, 06:54:03 AM »
One thing I notice is that on one in their 20s knows they are screwed up yet.
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Re: How old are we?
« Reply #12 on: January 10, 2008, 06:55:26 AM »
Heh... I knew.... there just wasn't any computer or message board when I was in my twenties, lol.

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Re: How old are we?
« Reply #13 on: January 10, 2008, 06:59:46 AM »
Well I guess I knew something was not quite right but I was unable to identify it or had enough of what it takes to stop it.  It took me hitting a wall and falling apart.  My anger drove me to start the healing process.  I believe as I look back that the series of events in my life got me to where I am today-still learning and getting better!
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Re: How old are we?
« Reply #14 on: January 10, 2008, 09:59:19 AM »
I read the book, WOMEN WHO LOVE TOO MUCH at some point in my twenties.  My bf's mother gave it to me, lol.  She's Auntie P in my life now.... one of my best friends and I adore her still.  We intellectualize life, ad nauseum together, and enjoy ourselves thoroughly. 

I carried that book around like it was a bible.... then went back to re highlight ever so many years, in different colors.  It was interestting to see what jumped out at me with each reading.  Different things according to my current struggles. (I did this with all the books I read on figuring out unhealthy patterns)

 I wish there was a message board back then.... but reading reading reading was what I had and what I did. 

Lupita.... our age isn't an idicator for our emotional health. 

   



I spent my twenties and thirties working on me..... building careers and paying down a mortgage.  I probably read 20 self help books and journaled a couple years of my life away. 

My failures taught me lessons.  The books provided signposts I recognized as I navigated life. 

My age has nothing to do with my emotional health. 

You're stronger than I am in many ways...... you'd have kicked my ass in school, no doubt, but nobody ever mixed a more perfect color chart than me and I was always done in minutes.  Turned out I was good at winging it..... screwing up my courage and knocking on doors well enough to succeed in sales.... of all things.... but in a creative field.  I had no idea I could pretend I was competent.....  then work hard until I became so.  Who knew?  What can I say.... it was an important lesson that I've assimilated into other parts of my life.     

Fake it till ya make it.  That was internalized by age 30.  Not earlier.

Everyone I come in contat with, amazingly, has strengths that always surprise me.   My life, looking back, has been a largly selfish pursuit.  I planned it that way......... I'm glad it's been what it's been but.... I don't know where I'd be had I spent some of my youth caring for children..... and not just myself. 

I'd probably be in a different space, as far as figuring myself out..... had I gone through medical school, nurtured children then become a single parent in my young adult life, no doubt. but maybe having to care for others would have taught other lessons that helped me grow faster in deeper ways? 

Hard to say.... this is an interesting topic though. 


It's interesting that you draw a paralell between you and your students and other posters here and youself, you see the irony there.

BTW..... I'm not feeling real swell lately.... so please ask for clarification on something if it comes accross sideways.

 Long posts put a lot out there that might come out wrong, I realize that.  Just had a lot to say to you this morning.




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