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Anonymous:
I have no clue how that went in twice, lol.  Wish I could do this when I make a deposit in my bank account, lol.

Jaded

cplummer:
It is these affirmations, I believe, that support a woman to leave, to stay out, and to stay sane.  I choose to believe there is a Higher Plan out there for so many reasons, many of which are illustrated in your posts that responded to my pattern of "am I doing the right thing"  "It hurts so much", ....   It makes a huge difference to talk to people who have been through this, who really get all of it.  So many of my friends who are wonderful people dont' understand the anguish and the process the way that people of this site understand--really can empathize.  I thank you for being my Angels.

Ellie, thanks for the song .  I've printed it and put it up right where I can see it.  And yes I love it!!

Jaded,
Yes, you are, of course right.  When his abuse became so horrific in front of my boys  (3 and 5) and they started seeing it and accepting it was ok; this was when I began to realize I could absolutely not go on.  and my 5 year old began treating me in the same aloof, disrespectful way his Dad was.  It was haapening right before my very eyes!  It was heartbreaking and a huge wake-up call.    I was losing my power as a mother with my boys, because they were mirroring their Dad.  It is good to have you remind me of this is such a realy way.  I wrote my 5 year-old his yearly Birthday card  (I write one every year and keep them in a file for when they are older) and I addressed the issue of his Dad's treatment to me and told him it was never ok to bully his partner.  And it is also so good for me to have the analogy about , would I want my daughter to be treated this way ever!!  It is frustrating why I have lost sight of this for myself.  Thank you.  Gingerpeach, thank you for the reminder that I have done the hardest part already--left an abusive relationship.  Thank you for taking the time to read the posts prior so you have the history.  Thank you for reminding me, in a loving way, that "the Countess shedding her fears needs to face them.  You should write more late at night--you are right on!  Thanks for missing a little sleep to help me out .  I slept well because of your replies.

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