http://www.psychologymatters.org/nodifference.html
Excerpt:
""Media depictions of men and women as fundamentally “different” appear to perpetuate misconceptions – despite the lack of evidence. The resulting “urban legends” of gender difference can affect men and women at work and at home, as parents and as partners. As an example, workplace studies show that women who go against the caring, nurturing feminine stereotype may pay dearly for it when being hired or evaluated. And when it comes to personal relationships, best-selling books and popular magazines often claim that women and men don't get along because they communicate too differently. Hyde suggests instead that men and women stop talking prematurely because they have been led to believe that they can't change supposedly “innate” sex-based traits.
Hermes,
Copied over the above that you have just posted 'no big difference (gender)' on 'What Helps' board, so that I can figure it all out.