Called my mom's bluff

[Leah]

My NPD Mother, is a flown blown, all singing and dancing, NPD person -- the full works. The weddings, and what she did, reminds me of a 'Bette Davis' 'Joan Crawford' film scenario.

However, with regards to you mom, saying something, and you react.  That was me, every time.  Afterward, I would think to myself, and beat myself up, why oh why, did I react?  Intrusiveness, they have the knack of drilling into us, which they did, from childhood.  Being caught off guard due to stress is perfectly understandable, annoyingly so.

Leah

[Ami]

Dear Kelly.
  I can really relate to your relationship with your M.I realized that they cast a "spell" over us, like in  fairy tales. We are not free to venture beyond the ideas that they set for us. We are stuck.
I saw this ,last night.
 We are frozen.
 Your situation is very hard b/c you work with her and live near her. Also, now your H is a real problem. I am really, really sorry, Kelly. I am here for you ,if you need me.      Love    Ami

[Overcomer]

Thanks.  I truly believe I have come a long way over the years-but, like clock work something happens that tips me over the edge.  Now it usually involves work.  I can so fully see that if she backs off the business wins.  She is totally ineffective as a leader there.  But she feels since she has so much money invested in the business she cannot leave.  But here is the rub-the longer she stays the more $ she throws in the business the less likely it is successful the less likely she will leave