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Ellie:
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--- Quote from: Ellie ---My Ndad doesn't like that I stood up to him and am not afraid of him anymore. So in pulling out the stops, he threatened to take me to court for using foul language while talking to him on the phone. I didn't cuss at them, just used adjectives as I spoke. I was never allowed to curse. He recorded the call and says he will sue me.
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Your father has zero legal grounds here. He can't sue you for anything. I can't imagine what his grounds are for monetary damages. That's what lawsuits are about - damages. You can't sue just because you're angry with someone. His recording of your phone call was illegal, if he wants to get technical about it.

I don't understand the reason that you'd want to communicate with these people. They're wracking their brains for a way to have you arrested. My suggestion is to cut off all contact for your own benefit. It will also help you in case you ever end up in court for any reason. If you continue contacting them, you'll lose credibility in front of a judge.

If they harass you, consider getting a restraining order.

Hang in there,

bunny

mighty mouse:
Ellie,

I guess I don't understand why you still want to be in their lives?

The N types have far more ammunition than us sane types do and always will. We can not fight them at their game IMO. It's a useless waste of time.
Let them win this battle...no contact from you. But you in turn must not let them into your life either.

Get call block, get caller ID, shred any letter or snail mail they may send. Don't let them have access to you in any way. Put them in the delete box in the email. When they try to bust the barrier, don't respond in any way. Who cares what they think? I know my NMom probably thinks I'm miserable without her, but the opposite is true. I don't care about her constructs of reality. I have my own.

MM

BlueTopaz:
Ellie,

I very much agree with MM, and Bunny.  

Cutting off all contact, and blocking their access to you as best you can (& ignoring whatever does manage to get through) is best for your own self and life.

Your father is terribly emotionally ill, with a severe personality disorder that will not change.  One of the diagnostic criteria for Nism is rigidity.     Though, beyond the stats., sadly, your 44 years will have already told you that.

I'm so sorry for the abuse & pain you've had to endure for so long, by the very people who are supposed to love us the most, and who we should be able to trust the most with the care of our hearts & souls...  

But I believe that you can slowly heal, and live a happier existence without such mental & emotional illness in your life....

Best...

Ellie:
Great idea!
I can turn their legal threats back at them if they overstep my boundaries! I will break off contact - I guess I was feeling a little like I must keep trying to contact them and beg my way back in, but I refuse to bow to that! If they threaten me or my family again, I will get a restraining order. That would reeeeeeeeaaaaaaalllllllllly make them angry! I guess Ndad thinks he's the only one allowed to use the legal system.

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