Homeless

[Hopalong]

Naked painting!
And some art, too!
Singing on the sidewalk!
Whoopee cushions!
Blowing off notions of what middle-aged females are supposed to act like!

CRONEHOOD!
Whoo-aaahhh! Cackle, cackle...

Wearing jeans and no bras to church!
Being holy fools!
Riding scooters!
Planting front yards in victory gardens with pink flamingos!
(Aaargh, perhaps I don't belong in the state in which I live...)

If it weren't for his depression, I found much to love in the Al Pacino character in Scent of a Woman. He was profane, but more human than anyone else in the story.

I guess for me, nonconformist suggests joy.
Too many girdles around when I was a child, body burkas...

xo
Hops

[Certain Hope]

Scuse me, Miss Hopsie....

but I am a non-conformist fundy who wears jeans to church and none of those confining undergarments...

so there 

 

Hugs and love,
Carolyn

[Gabben]

Carolyn,

I'm laughing right now.

Last year I wrote paper on modest fashion -- the lack there of, it was published.

OK, now I'm running...................I can feel the lynch mob coming after me.

(P.S. sometimes I wear jeans to church too -- shhhhhhh  )

[Certain Hope]

LOL Amber!!      How I'd love to see photos of that costumed flamingo! What a great idea 

Tell you what, 12 years of parochial school and dresses every day...  anybody'd be hard pressed to take away my jeans at this stage of life... lol... or get me to wear anything that pinches, pokes, or restrains... LOL

[Hopalong]

Awesome, boogying down wid da fundies!!!

 

(I'm lucky y'all put up with me.)

xxoo,
Hops

[Certain Hope]

Naw, I feel truly blessed to know you (((((((Hops)))))) ... always.

Love,
Carolyn

P.S.  ((((((((((Axa)))))))))) I hope you've had a good day and are feeling more at ease.

[DailyMail]

Axa,

I just read your original post on this thread.

I haven't read the responses but the theme of being alone, or homeless has been a recurring one since my relationship with my ex started unravelling.

I can remember feeling like I had found a home in him, and when I realized he was not who he said he was, that feeling of being lost, alone and homeless was palpable.

I'm starting to come to grips with the awareness that there may be no home.  I'm starting to try and digest the possibility I will always be alone in some sort of existential way, even if/when I start my next romantic relationship.  I'm starting to believe that maybe a healthy love can only ever exist if it does not include attachment.

It's not what I want to believe, and who knows, I may reject what I am saying this time next week.  But tonight, I'm entertaining the idea that maybe the only way I'll be free from relationship pain is to not be so vulnerable and attached to someone else.  (I'd rather be madly, deeply in love with someone and happy ever after, but I don't know that I think that's a reality anymore, and I'd rather be without the pain I endured the last few years loving someone so much who didn't treat my love well.)

Do you ever wonder if maybe we're all islands...in a galapagos?

[Overcomer]

This is a great thread!  It is fun to joke around with Hops and realize that jeans are cool in church!  But the bra less thing is a no!  My boobs have not been perky enough for that in years.  Axa-Please keep posting these non threatening threads.  I need um-WE need um.

[Overcomer]

Daily-I look at my just married daughter and see how much in love they are-but I know in 20 years that spark will be gone.  But the shame is that I have never felt that reciprocal love since I was a teenager and it sucks to not love someone so madly and have them love you so madly back does it not?

[Ami]

Perky or no perky--no bra for me, if I can get away with it(LOL)                          Ami



PS   The grandma's knew what they were doing!

[axa]

It is lovely to hear you guys laughing again............been a loooooooooooooong time.  And Carolyn it has been a good day, interesting lectures, some fun and feeling whacked right now but happy.

Sela xxxx

Dailymail, I have been thinking about homeless a lot lately.  I moved from my house and am renting a room so that feels a bit like homelessness, the conflict here seemed to invade a space I considered a form of home and I guess this theme has been with me for a while.  I also am begining to feel maybe there is no home and maybe that is ok.  I sometimes embarce my aloneness and it can feel quite powerful but the signals around me in everyday life seem to contradict this.  How can I be ok and be alone and not attached.  I have a son, whom I love but do not feel attached to in a dependant way.  In fact I do not feel any great attachment to anyone and it is a strange feeling.  Sometimes I feel as if I am missing out on something but my experience has been that "attachment" has not been a good experience for me.  I think when I desire something/someone I loose something of myself.  I believe it is possible to love and allow the other be free, to not demand from them or want to control them.  I have not achieved this but I do think that is what real love is about.  I wonder if we are all islands but because this feels like such a scary concept we fill our lives with attachments to avoid the aloneness.............. have not figured it out really but do like to think about it.

xx

axa

[axa]

And you naughty braless girls in jeans please feel free to invade my threads any time YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

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A firmly supported underwired axa

[DailyMail]

(squeezing in between the braless girls briefly - or is that briefless girls?  )

I think aloneness, "solitude" is a beautiful thing.  Beautiful things are created in solitude: masterpieces, arias, literature.  I think solitude becomes loneliness if we ache for companionship but fail in getting it.

I think if we're choosing to be alone, to heal, to create, to get quiet, to rejuvenate then it isn't wrong.

If we find we're alone and withdrawing from friends, family, love (of any kind), if we're drawing the blinds, not answering the phone, turning companionship away and becoming paler and weaker, we've gone astray.

What others feel about us finding our "home" and carrying it "with us", instead of building it around us isn't any of MY business

(imagining being happy and unattached in my future)

I don't know, I'm thinking out loud right now.

[axa]

Daily,

I have made changes from self enforced isolation to a healthier aloneness.  I rarely feel lonely any more.  I think the years of therapy helped me break through the pain of loneliness.  When I think of a future on my own I can get a bit scared until I check with where I am now: alone and ok.  But have to admit been noticing a few of the oppositie sex lately............ just in passing, may I add, just in passing! 

Axa

[Overcomer]

Be careful because if you are like me you will end up with a man with a drinking problem.  Problem with me is my self esteem was whittled away until I felt I did not deserve a good man!