Dear Ami,
I understand.
Since you are both seeing Ann individually, maybe she can tell you when, and if, it may be time for the two of you to see her together, as a couple.
If you both had that to look forward to, for some time off in the future, maybe your husband could just back off for now and focus on his own independent healing, instead of trying to use you as a crutch.
What he needs he can only get from God... and then, and only then, can he come to you as a whole person. And it's the same for you, of course. No man, including your husband, can make you whole again.
Amazing things can happen in the midst of tragedy and God can stir up a whole new outlook on life and people... when we're willing to hear Him and act on His guidance. I'm believing that for you... and for myself

Love,
Carolyn