Once again, the true abuser has succeeded in silencing and rendering a person voiceless. Dr G, though you are qualified by your degree to diagnose people, you by your own admission have informed the board members that you have not and will not do so, therefore, you are misjudging me, by telling me I was WRONG in what I said about CB. If you do not even allow yourself to judge someone's disordered behavior, then you also can not justifiably say I am wrong either in saying I've seen the disorder in operation.
CB was every bit abusive, albeit covertly, to me and to others. I have heard from a person who has also felt this way about CB, recently. That was all the validation I needed.
I am shocked, that knowing that you have started this board, are very much aware of the signs of NPD, you would support an abuser over a victim of that abuser, and even ask the person victimized to apologize to the abuser. Will you thus ask the abused adult children of N's to go back to their N parents and apologize for not being more willing prey and supply too?
You are right...I can't and won't be a part of a board where the very one who started it and is well aware of what true abuse looks like, inadvertantly asks the one who was abused, to say THEY are sorry for pointing out the actions and expecting justice to prevail. This is not the first time you have expected this of me, though, thankfully Bean and I ended up on a good note, since Bean is NOT a narcissist but was a very wounded, defensive person way back then. Again, Bean, thank you. You are very precious to me.!
I will say one last time, CB covertly abused me not once but several times on this group. I have pointed it out repeatedly and once again, she left after throwing a dig my way, and once again, I will leave because now things were twisted, her "sins" forgotten, she has been placated sufficiently and seen as "poor persecuted martyr" and I am now seen as perpetrator.
I do not thank you, Dr G and all for allowing Narcissistic abuse of me right on the very board where people are supposed to come to HEAL from this horrid experience. I do thank you for letting me have this place to read posts that were very helpful to me indeed and for pretty much letting me say what I believed needed to be said, without censuring.
To all genuine, good-hearted, Godly humans on this group: Be careful all...abusers are the winners in this forum. Do not bother to cry when you are pinched nor speak out when you are manipulated. It all falls on deaf ears and blinded eyes.
Farewell and Godspeed to those who receive it.
~Laura
