Feel myself sinking fast

[towrite]

I thought things could not get worse. I've held my head up, tried to be as cheerful as possible under the circumstances, and - now - I feel the blade just hovering over my head. I ahve given up my house, moved in with a friend, now my bank has frozen my account. I can't get even $1 out!! That seems illegal, but they say it's their policy. I made payment arrangements with them on my card, and now they say the dept. I made the arrangements with didn't have the authority to do that. They will not work with me. You know, they always say call the company and they will work with you on the payments. But this bank refused to do so. They're a credit union and I simply cannot believe they are treating me like this. I cannot even buy groceries.... I have really tried to keep a positive outlook, but this is simply oppressive.

[axa]

towrite,

I am so sorry to read about your situation.  I have not been online a lot lately so do not know the background.  I really don't know what to say but wanted to respond and let you know that I am thinking of you at this terribly difficult time.


axa

[Ami]

I am so sorry ,Kate.
I wish I could help.
 I am praying for you, Kate.
I know you must be terrified.
It sounds very, very frightening.
I am so, very sorry you are hurting like this.            Love   Ami

[cats paw]

towrite,

  I'd always thought credit unions were supposed to be more personalized and community oriented.

  Will your friend be willing to help a bit ?   I hope you find some avenues.

cats paw

[Ami]

Towrite,
Do they EVER  come through for you(your FOO-family of origin)?                                Love    Ami

[ann3]

Kate,

I'm so sorry to hear all this.

Thinking of you.

ann

[Gaining Strength]

Towrite - my bank froze my account in mid-Dec.  In fact it was the IRS.  It was a nightmare.  I was able to manage because I have another small account in my son's name and my brother was willing to encourage my mother to follow through on her summer agreement to help me financially in January. 

I do not have credit cards.  I cut them up many years ago otherwise I would have run up a debt there.  Without question I still have a little farther to go before I completely fall and I hear that that is not your case.  I don't have any words of advise but I have a heart of compassion for you.  That won't do anything concrete to help but I do care.  I care very much. - your friend - Gaining Strength

[towrite]

Thanks, GS. I do feel your compassion.

Ami, same to you. And, no, my FOO never comes thru. I thought about having an angry confrontation with my NM or writing to her - she has already lost one child b/c the FOO refused to help him. The second son is not in good shape now either. Now the daughter. Wonder what she thinks it would say about her as a mother if she lost all 3 kids??? I really hate her. Her offer of support was to take me out to lunch...

Paw - I thought the same thing about CU's. They want me to give them all the $ in my account (pitiful), but my question is - I can't write checks, so how do they propose I get it to them???

Also the friend I'm living with is on disability. She can barely afford to feed herself, let alone me.

So, Izzy, the answer to your question is YES! Don't mean to "shout", but I am just so angry with her. She could help me out for 6 months til I find a job and it would be a drop in the bucket for her. My NF was the same way. I remember years ago I asked him for $40 so I could go to a psychiatrist, and he said 'no'.

Thanks all for your support.