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Dreams about the Narcissist
Moonflower:
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Anonymous:
Hi Moonflower,
Holy bat-crap. You had to talk your mom into handing over a gun? :shock: :shock: :shock:
Threats of suicide is more than N stuff. It's one of the signs of Borderline PD. I'm sorry I cannot remember from your other posts if you are already aware of this. Suicide threats are the ultimate in emotional blackmail.
And Discounted Girl, I felt for your trauma for having to hear your mother threaten your father's life. I am both proud and sorry that you were strong enough to want to take action to protect your father. How brave!
Both of these experiences are just incredibly traumatizing. And yet it sounds like you both have hope of healing and getting through it all. It's both mind boggling and inspiring. Hugs to you both, Seeker
PS. I think the Nness in the weaker partner is simple survival and safety needs. They are so unsafe themselves, they cannot think about anyone else (which makes it seem N). Sort of the flip side of the aggressive N monster who rages out of weakness to feel strong and to survive. Just really primitive.
Seeker
Discounted Girl:
Maybe your dad left the pistol with her thinking maybe she would follow thru & get everyone else out of their misery. Ohhhhhhhhhhh,,, :oops:
Yeah the NQueen would call me in the middle of the night yelling, "get out here quick if you ever want to see me alive again. I've had it!" :roll: So, single mother here, I would call the neighbor lady over to babysit in the middle of the night, I would drive the 25 miles out there, sometimes the roads were icy, and she would be there with her shotgun and in her nightgown, babbling on and on. My Dad was either in bed ignoring her, or sometimes he was working third shift. I never took drugs in my whole life, smoked pot now & then, but no heavy stuff. She was on valium like they were M&M's ,,, found a quack doctor who would give her anything she wanted. Ah, the agony -- where is the ecstasy? *cough*worthless pig*cough*.
Discounted Girl:
Thanks Seeker,
I hope I am not painting a picture of a wimp girl here, hope I don't have to change my name ,,,, :oops:
Well, no, I know I am strong. I have decided that not only does the Nparent have to have just the right ingredients to pull it off, but the victim also has just the right (should we say right?) substance to survive without going totally bonkers. Also, I think those who live in it and come out unscathed (or so it seems) either are in denial or don't have enough brain cells for it to matter anyhow.
Moonflower:
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