Bean: Everything you said is exactly as I see it. She probably ran to the t to get him to validate her feelings towards me by giving her some "diagnosis." She has been known to railroad people into inpatient counseling so she has a hand in "fixing" them. If I do not watch out I will be posting after a month long stay at some psych ward!!!
But I do the same thing. I am constantly trying to find someone - ANYONE - to validate me and my negative feelings towards my mom. That is why it is so reassuring when our bookkeeper says "you are the only sane one around here." THERE - somebody said it - it is NOT me - it is her. So she runs to the t and says to herself, "you see? I am not doing anything wrong here - my d has borderline personality disorder so she is sick and I cannot possibly hand over the reigns to her....."
But this time it backfired. Her lack of taking responsibility is finally coming back to bite her. Not only will I leave but the bookkeeper said even without a job to go to, she is gone too. And then a couple of our people will leave and we have lost several to the store that is being opened by a man my mom let go. He has been plotting his revenge for 8 years. This is all happening simultaneously.
I will not be vindictive. She will reap what she has sown. NOw she is stuck. I hope she sells so my aunt will have to fend for herself!!
