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Anonymous:
Is it normal or common for a female somatic narcissist to mutate further into a cerebral narcissist later in life even tho they look exceptionally young and attractive, with limited somatic behavior strictly for financial gain, as opposed to how somatic she was when she was younger?

My feeling is that her repeated failures in relationships with men forced her false self to adapt to another form of narcissistic supply, one that would be more fruitful.  She's done it successfully.  surprise - surprise.

My mother has gone from classic somatic narcissism, when I was younger - to classic cerebral narcissism, currently.

Onyx:
Interesting thought! I was of the view that Cerebral Narcissists often went through periods of sexual feasts followed by famine for long periods of time, often years. Sex for a cerebral, is something they use only in exceptional circumstances that gives them large amounts of NS. It's almost like they've brought in a 'stunt double' for the sex scenes. The actor (the N) steps to one side, whilst the stunt double (the N) performs the dangerous act......and you know what, they can be REALLY very good at it!

The fact that they have no interest in sex other than using it to gain something, is beside the point. Whatever they're receiving from you....and for a female N it won't be anything to do with your performance :lol: , they will continue to act the part as long as they're satisfied!

For a normal non N person, we enjoy sex for the shear pleasure it gives us and our partner. It's a mutual thing, it's a two way thing. It fulfills our needs, desires, love etc...  For a Cerebral N, these kind of things are totally missing, they don't have them in the same sense. Above all, the word 'mutual' doesn't exist, it really is an 'out of body experience'! The weird thing is that their not really present in the act so to speak. They're their......and I mean loud and clear there :lol: , but not really! You can both be thrashing around having a creat time, but behind it all...there really exists no real desire in them for it!

It's so difficult to explain; it's like having a relationship with your very own and exclussive full time prostitute! She's all over you, but the meter's running!

Sex with these people can be very frequent, you literally can to two 'bunnies' at it morning noon and night ripping the clothes off of each other! This can continue for long periods of time and you'd never suspect something wasn't quite right. Depending how worthwhile the reward you're giving them is, they'll perform until it's worth it to them no more. Then they refer back to type and totally switch off! They have no need for something having had their NS satisfied. Sex is no longer a tool for the job, so they simply put it away in the shed like anyother garden tool!

I would suspect that with age, sex would confirm there desireability to others. A bit like going down the 'catwalk' for a model' Men are still fawning over them thus confirming their attractiveness and padding their ego big time (ego is a huge thing with an N, but it's also their biggest weakness, they're very vulnerable because of it :D )! So in a threeway relationship with an N....you, her and her stunt double, she receives great power and satisfaction to her status as the Queen.

It really is an ego and power trip! You're only relevent as long as you're reflecting something back to her and giving her something in return. It could be as simple of projecting. Lets say you're wealthy....it could even be as simple as you have a nice car...whatever she can project through!

So no, I think that they return to type. Once a cerebral......always! Cerebrals actually don't like physical contact and avoid it. Somantics thrive upon it. Maybe she was a Somantic in the first place, taking a rest for a while:wink:  !

Onyx

phoenix:
bye

bunny:
What is a cerebral narcissist?

bunny

Onyx:
There's lots of material on the web for you to read. I'd avoid Sam Vak material. Altough it's good in part, literally everyone can be described as a full blown NPDer when you read his stuff.

Briefly:

A Cerebral N is as you'll read, the intellectual type. The sort of college/university guy who is way ahead of the rest of the class of dummies, as he see's them. Ther female Cerebral N is the same, but with better make up. Both in my opinion, switch in and out of sexual acts purely as a method of securing something from someone that they percive as special. Someone that they're really projecting through. Someone that makes them look or feel good/special.

For a Somatic N, sex is the spiders web of life. They use image, image, image as a personality weapon to secure what they want. How wonderful they look is sooooo very important to them. Only the best in clothes and perfume etc....will do! They are literally hunters on the prowl looking for their next prey. Once they've locked on to the target, sex and sexuality is the weapon of choice that's deployed....one way of other! They can either play the 'little lost child' or whatever to ensnare....but it the end, sex will be the final result to really hook you in.

Cerebral N's actually don't like being touched or exploring sexual needs as they don't have any! They don't like showing their emotional vunerability and matters connected around sex make them very uneasy. Their performance and sexual drive are issues that may conjur up complaints from their spouse. So sex after a while, becomes a boring chore that they at best, feel obliged to perform for the sake of their partner. They're really doing you a favour as it really is tooooo much and tooooo primative for them.

Their high handed approach will be evident as they 'look down' their noses as you! You think sex is a normal healthy thing for two married people, they think it is show's them up as being mortal, weak, flesh! Hollywood examples of these type of people could be: Merys (the TV sitcom 'Frasier'), Baumgardener (the tv sitcom 'Third Rock from the Sun'), General Patton, Bette Davis, Liz Taylor, Michael Jackson and believe it or not, Mandy Smith. Somatics can be seen as: Marilyn Monroe, Michael Douglas, Joan Collins and many a Porno star :lol:

I actually feel sorry for Somatic N's. On the surface, their personalities ooze sex and sexual confidence. Whilst beneath, they are in fact slaves to their image. It's all a front that has to be maintained because it's often the only way they know how to manipulate the Narcissistic Fixes that they crave! They approach and ensnare their prey through beauty and physique. They are sexual Adonis's and as such, you are lucky to have them in your company. But secretly they too, dislike the sexual image they portray; it is the only weapon of choice that they have to secure the projection or fix that they need!




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