I found this article very helpful. Hope that you liked it. A friend of mine showed it to me.
Not only can we not change the past, thinking excessively about
it is a shortcut to unhappiness. And overly worrying about the
future deprives us of the experience we need to carry us there.
The great trick in life is to have goals ahead—but not to be so
obsessive about them that you defer living and doing now. How many
times have you said, "I will be really happy when... fill in the
blank: my husband has a better job, I lose 20 pounds, the children
start school. When you do that, says Josh Baran, author of 365
Nirvana Here and Now: Living Every Moment in the
Enlightenment, "you're living this life like a ghost; your mind is
not present."
""The more we look for what's hidden, for what is lacking," Baran
says, "the more we miss what's in our face."
He advocates that you let go of the idea that something is
missing. "It all comes down to this: this is your life, in sickness
or health. If you drop the searching, life opens up in interesting
ways. Life is only lived moment by moment. If you notice that this
is it, it changes your relationship to everything in your life. Each
moment becomes deeper. You are at the gateway to peace of mind."
This, he insists, is the message of all the great spiritual leaders
of every stripe and era.""
