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Somebody:
Pheonix gave me the idea for starting this thread (don't want to take all of the credit and be seen as seeking anything from anybody).

Would you like to see ground rules for this board?

Rules all board participants might be expected to follow, when at all possible?

If so, what would you suggest?  And why?

Personally, I would like to see:

1.  Please treat eachother with respect



because of the example it sets to, especially, new members, and because I believe all people deserve to be treated in such a way.

What do ya'll think?

Peanut:
It seems like there is a lot of abuse of the 'guest' feature here, so, I guess, in the ideal world, I'd like to see an end to anonymous posting.

Peanut:
Nothing personal, Somebody.  I've just noticed the problem has become really bad since I've recently returned.  Half of the time, I can't even figure out which end is up in the various threads, and, other times, they seem so abusive that if feels unsafe.

Somebody:
None taken Peanut.

I think I agree, although I don't know how all this stuff works.

Couldn't someone just register as whoever they want from the library or whatnot and not be detected, after all the fuss?

The other thing I'm thinking is, I know how frightened I was to post that first post.  It's scary.  This is a public board.  People can be rude.  Some feel totally uncomfortable with the whole idea of posting and may need to test the waters, so to speak, as a guest.  I don't even know how to register or what the purpose or advantage of that is.  I just wanted to speak about stuff.  

What if others just happen upon this board, as I did, and feel that need?
Is it fair to require anything of them at all?
I don't know.

I don't know about how this all works.  I'm really pc illiterate, in the long run.  I do know that those who create such havock (sp?) by posting under a whole bunch of names and behave disrespectfully, should somehow be banned from the group.  I don't know how that can be done or where the line of "disrespectful" would be drawn.  I guess my suggestion for the rule #1 would need much clearer definition and great consideration.

I do like your suggestion though.  I don't like it when people behave so badly and get no consequence for it.  On the other hand, I do understand that some have much to learn and we must try our hardest to be as patient and kind as possible.  Maybe "must" is the wrong word but I can't think of a better one at the moment.

Portia:
Hiya Somebody. Tricky one. I’m not much in favour of talking about setting rules. I’d rather leave that to Dr Grossman. I prefer to think he knows best! Is that a cop-out? I don’t think so.

But I’m all in favour of making information clearer and readily available, to inform people. Someone mentioned the information on the registration page to me earlier this week I think. I just checked it out. It’s a good guide but I wonder, can you post as ‘Guest’ without registering and therefore without reading that page? I don’t know the answer. This is the page: http://www.voicelessness.com/disc3/profile.php?mode=register I’m curious.

Also, someone asked a while back if the board is moderated. I think it’s fair to assume from the web address and the Index page that Richard Grossman is a/the moderator. Do you agree that this is obvious? Maybe it would help everyone to have this clarified. I don’t know. We could ask Dr G what he thinks if people do think this is a problem. Comments?

Other than those things, I think the Board manages itself. It’s a group of people and people can usually work things out between them. If they can’t work something out, they can ask Dr G for help. That’s the safety mechanism I think. Maybe this could be stated somewhere? What do you think? I don't know what Dr G would think though. I don't know what systems there are in place 'behind the scenes' so to speak.

I don’t mean to duck your question Somebody. I just have different ideas to add to the pot. I like the thoughtfulness of the thread. And I’ve just read what you said elsewhere about re-potting ourselves – I like that too. Now I’ve just read your second post above. How about ‘we can only try our hardest…’ ? P

Hiya Peanut. I’m sad that you feel unsafe on some threads. I think bunny said something about not reading threads you don’t like (hope I’m right there bunny). If a thread feels abusive to you, try to stop reading, or realise it isn’t about you. Do those ideas help? Pick threads you like and feel safe in. You don’t have to read all threads, do you? By the way, I admire your rose! I have no idea how to do that. P

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