Thanks for all of the kind thoughts. My NM has sent a few things in the mail. I did send flowers for Mother's Day, and she sent a snotty thank you. She sent M a card a week or so ago to tell him she misses him. Ironically, he doesn't want to see her.
My T wanted me to distance myself from my brother a bit because she wants to see if he will contact me. I'm always the one doing the calling, visiting, etc. So far he hasn't called, but I"ve also been busy and haven't been getting home until late. She feels he has hurt me too, and she doesn't think I need that sort of negativity. I feel very abandoned by my family, and that has done nothing to help the anxiety and depression I've been fighting for over a year.
On the upside, I feel so much better without my NM's intrusions into my life. I'm sad, but at the same time, it's like a big weight has lifted off my shoulders. I would give a lot of money to know what my NM said to my son that made him not want to see her.
Currently, H, my partner, is unemployed and she's taking care of M, working on the house, and looking for a couple of other kids to watch. I stress a lot about money, but overall things are good. We've had some bumps and we've gotten over them. We both go to talk to the T sometimes. She went with me at my last appointment and we got several things straightened out, including that we're spending a lot of time making certain the other person is happy, and spending less time taking care of ourselves. We're supposed to work on that.
M will be going to some camps later in the summer, but we decided not to put him in a summer long program to save some money.
