3D Groups

[Ami]

As I start to venture  more in to 3D, I would like to hear people's experiences with 3D groups. How are they the same as the board, different?
 Thanks so much, in advance, for any replies.     Ami

[Gabben]

Ami,

3D groups will give you an opportunity to see yourself more...Now, that cannot always be fun, but the reality is that being around others allows for our shortcoming to surface then we have to face ourselves and continue to grow or, leave the group.

There is something about the board that makes it easy...to avoid, run, come back, stay in denial, and not have to face ourselves....3D is not as safe as the board, therefore, it can really challenge you to grow more.

Lise

[Certain Hope]

Yes...  Lise,  that's what I discovered at work.

It's also why I need to not give up the search for a local fellowship/church.

Seeing yourself reflected in the eyes of impartial new aquaintances is quite the education.

Branching out further scares me, too... but it's necessary, I know.

Thanks for this topic, Ami.
Nothing to fear but fear itself, right?

Carolyn

[Ami]

Before I gave up , I was in 2 different support groups for 20 years, from the time my children were little and in the nurseries.
  I had comfort and friendship, but I still could not come out of 'gray and numb". I was a  part of the support groups, sponsoring people, going to events etc. I am trying to see why I did not get  the help from the 3D groups that I did  from the board.
 I think I was still "unreal" and  could not break out from "unreal" to real. I am starting to feel "real",now . I want to go in to 3D life as real, not playing the roles I was taught, but being authentic .
 Thank you for your responses, Lise and Carolyn, very much.                                                Hugs,  Ami

[changing]

Hello All-

I have been going to a Domestic Violence Group, as Hoppy and others here suggested I do. It has been very good for me- others there have gone through so much of the same things that have tested my mettle- their money stolen, losing their place in society, having to hide, the vagaries of the legal system, etc. Sometimes there would be a really lovely dinner that would be donated, and on other occassions we would do art projects- sounds silly but it struck a deep chord- nice food and self-expression touch upon symbolic issues as well as superficial ones. Also, so much that we talk about there is taboo in polite circles. The room feels safe and calm, very Izzyfied. No shame if I had to scrape pennies together to get the gas needed to show up...

I just wish that women had wash days or baking days or other fun bonding communal activities wherte one could do things and talk and listen and be... everything is time and money and marketed now...

Love,

Changing

[Ami]

Dear Lise, Carolyn and Changing,
 For me, I am ready for a new chapter in my life. The board saved my life. Dr G will always be the 'best" as far as I am concerned. I wish I could pay him back ,in some tangible way, beyond words. I owe him my life.
 My M took away most of my trust in myself. What she didn't take, my H did. Then, they did, together.
The board helped me   to express myself.
When I think about my 3D groups, I guess the feelings were the same, but they were not as open as the board. That was my question.Are 3D groups and the board the same, essentially, underneath?
 When I went in to a shell, in my early teens, I had just  seen the movie"Last Summer" with Barbera Hershey. It was about power and the dire consequences when you lose yours. I vowed never to lose mine,but I did, very  badly.
 Now, I am back to that decision point I left in my teens. It REALLY is about my own power. What a road.
I found God from being  denuded. It was worth every last bit  of pain .It was the smallest price to pay for the enormity of Him.
 Now, I want to naviagate 3D, with all that entails, as "me", not the perfect me, the real one.    Love    Ami