Wow, those were really good stories which brought back alot of memories for me as i am trying to further understand the mentality of hoarding. I have similar background and stories, and can resonate with everyone who wrote. I quite agree that she must be stuck as a four-year old.
Those bond stories reminded me of my Nmother too. They love to get those for some strange reason despite the fact they hardly keep up with inflation. Did anyone have any experience where their Nperson had trouble with the concepts of inflation and depreciation as well?
For example, one time, my mother tried to sell her 10 year old laptop for the same amount as the cost. My father and i tried to convince her that she would be very lucky and should be very grateful if she could get $50 for it, but she insisted that it was worth its original price tag of $1000 and would not get rid of it for a penny less!!

So she had had that obsolete, slow-moving, and extremely heavy computer-laptop collecting dust for all these years. I would have gladly given it away much sooner.
Whenever going shopping with her, she was always frustrated with the weak purchasing power of today's dollar as opposed to 20 years ago. She always complained that things were too expensive, and didn't like that i reminded her that she was making more money every year with annual raises to keep up with inflation. She would yell at the sales people with nasty remarks. Finally, she kept most her shopping to yard sales, and continued tormenting the people by nickling and diming them. it is the most embarrassing experience to accompany her to a yard sale.

I was traumatized as a child when my Nmother gave away my favorite possession which was a figurine perfume bottle made by AVON. Without any regard to my feelings, she just gave it away to a neighborhood playmate who admired it in passing, and never replaced it no matter how hard i pleaded with her. I think it hurt so much that i never again got attached to any material things ever again. I was 6 years at the time.
In contrast to me, i have always noticed how attached she is with things, and has resorted to stealing toilet tissues, napkins from fast food restaurants, and office supplies from the office, among other things. i got so used to it that it didn't hurt much whenever she took paintings from my room. but when she came to my office and wanted things from there, that was the last straw for me.
Also, she tried to find a good reason to visit me at my boyfriend's apt on numerous occasions. Finally, i caught on to her plan, so i made excuses to avoid burglarizing my friend's apt. There really is no end to this maddening behavior.
I have discoverd that i had hidden too much of my TRUE self in her presence in order to conform and soothe her anxieties. I am always doubling as both CHILD and PARENT to her. Its no wonder that i am so exhausted and have made conscious decision to forego childbearing. Add to the fact that i never found Mr. Right since i was so busy living up to Nparents' expectations. And it was a bad experience to witness the dysfunctional raising of my younger siblings and to help out so much during the babysitting years. Oh, its so sad how they have ruined my childhood. I'm just glad i'm done with dealing with them now. Nothing will faze me now. Purging old feelings and distorted views is very helpful. Thanks everybody for sharing!!!